Coaching practices for Nervous System States

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • One minute I’m wired and on edge, the next I’m flat and checked-out, and I don’t even register the flip until I’m already in it
  • When I’m wound up, "everything is urgent and someone’s to blame" feels like the plain truth, and when I’m low, "nothing matters" feels just as true
  • Sometimes I’ll go from settled to on-edge in a second and have no idea what flipped the switch
  • When I’m wound up, no amount of calming myself down alone seems to work
  • I can tell something’s off in my body but I can’t name it — am I wound up or shut down?

Practices that may help

  1. Map your state (ventral, sympathetic, dorsal)
    Learn to notice which of three nervous-system states you are in before you try to change anything.
    Polyvagal Theory, Honestly Explained
  2. Ladder narrative mapping: finding the story your state tells
    Identify the specific beliefs and stories that your nervous system generates on each rung.
    The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
  3. Map your personal safety and threat cues
    Identify the specific environmental, relational, and sensory cues that shift your nervous system state.
    Neuroception: How Your Nervous System Reads Safety Before Your Mind Does
  4. Use co-regulation — another settled nervous system — as a primary resource
    Your nervous system can synchronize with a calmer one nearby; proximity to settled people is regulation, not weakness.
    Neuroception: How Your Nervous System Reads Safety Before Your Mind Does
  5. Identify your current rung
    Before trying to change your state, learn to read which of the three rungs you’re on right now.
    The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
  6. The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
    The ladder of regulation, developed by Deb Dana from Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory, is a map of three autonomic states — ventral vagal (safe and social), sympathetic (mobilized), and dorsal vagal (shutdown) — arranged as rungs. Knowing which rung you’re on and which direction to move gives you a practical framework for state navigation rather than white-knuckling through dysregulation.
  7. Send your body cues of safety
    Deliberately supply the sensory signals — soft gaze, warm tone, slow movement — that read as "safe."
    Polyvagal Theory, Honestly Explained
  8. Sympathetic-to-ventral moves: downshifting mobilization
    Use specific physiological levers to move from an activated (fight/flight) state toward the ventral vagal zone.
    The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
  9. Dorsal vagal lift: moving out of shutdown
    Use gentle movement and micro-connection to rise from a collapsed or numb state.
    The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
  10. Using social engagement to activate ventral vagal tone
    Seek out or create interactions that deliver prosodic and facial safety cues to your nervous system.
    The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States

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