Coaching practices for Passive Attitude Meditation

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• Whenever I try to be present I end up grading myself
• A feeling shows up and I’m instantly grabbing at it or shoving it away
• Every time I meditate I’m straining to "do it right"
• I’m comfortable following the breath, but the moment I’m told to drop the anchor and just be present with nothing to hold onto, I either spin off into thinking or go blank
• Even in meditation I’m secretly grading myself, chasing some better state, treating sitting as a means to an end

Practices that may help

1. The attitudes of mindfulness
   Cultivate the inner stances — non-judging, patience, beginner’s mind, acceptance, letting go — that make attention healing rather than harsh.
   Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
2. Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass
   Watch thoughts, sensations, and emotions arise and dissolve without grabbing or pushing.
   Shikantaza: Just Sitting
3. Effortlessness (the “no concentration” principle)
   Let the technique be passive and easy — TM’s central claim is that effort is counterproductive.
   Transcendental Meditation (TM)
4. Releasing the object: sitting without a focal point
   Let go of fixing attention on the breath, a mantra, or any other anchor — simply be present.
   Shikantaza: Just Sitting
5. Shikantaza — "just sitting" in the Soto Zen tradition
   Sit with complete presence and nothing to achieve — no goal, no technique, no observer separate from sitting.
   Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical
6. Adopt a passive attitude toward intruding thoughts
   When thoughts arrive, let them pass without judgment and return to the anchor — no fighting, no scoring.
   The Relaxation Response, Made Practical
7. Shikantaza (just sitting)
   Sit in open, objectless awareness — not focusing on anything, not following anything.
   Zen Practice (Zazen and Beyond)
8. Continuous noting — extending the practice into daily activity
   Maintain a running background note on mental events throughout ordinary tasks, sustaining the observer stance informally.
   Noting Practice, Made Practical
9. Working with ill will (byapada)
   When aversion, irritation, or resentment enters meditation, meet it with loving-kindness for the person or thing triggering it.
   The Five Hindrances: Diagnosing and Working with Meditation Obstacles
10. Choiceless awareness — resting without an object
    Sit with attention open and receptive, letting whatever arises in experience be the meditation object — without choosing, pursuing, or rejecting any of it.
    Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical

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