Coaching practices for Personal Kanban After a Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep wildly underestimating how long things will take and overcommitting, week after week, because I have no honest record of how my work actually goes
• My to-do list has swollen into a dumping ground for every someday-maybe idea I’ve ever had, so it’s less a plan than a wall of guilt
• There’s this one task that’s just been sitting there untouched for days while I quietly start other things around it, and instead of facing why it’s stuck
• This one loss feels like the end of the world when I stare right at it, and I keep checking it obsessively, which only makes it worse
• All my tasks live as a swirling cloud in my head, so I can never actually see the whole pile at once

Practices that may help

1. Personal Kanban, Made Practical
   Personal Kanban (Jim Benson & Tonianne DeMaria Barry) adapts the industrial lean-production Kanban board for individual and small-team use. Its two rules are: visualize your work and limit work in progress (WIP). The Kanban method in manufacturing has strong evidence; the personal adaptation is a practitioner system with mechanistic grounding in cognitive load and attention research but limited formal trials in personal productivity contexts.
2. Use the Done column to learn about your work patterns
   Periodically examine completed cards for patterns in what gets done, what gets stuck, and how long things actually take.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
3. Only put tasks on the board that you’ve explicitly decided to do
   Your Kanban board is not a wish list — only tasks you have consciously committed to belong in To Do.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
4. Watch for cards that stay in Doing without moving
   A card that hasn’t moved in several days is a signal about a real obstacle — examine it rather than adding more work.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
5. Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
   A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
6. Set up a simple To Do / Doing / Done board
   Three columns and sticky notes (physical or digital) are all you need to make your work visible at a glance.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
7. Pull work rather than having it pushed to you
   Choose your next task when you have capacity, rather than accepting whatever arrives first.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
8. Pre-commit to a rule before the loss is live
   Decide your action in a cool moment so the hot, loss-averse moment cannot hijack it.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
9. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
   Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
10. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
    Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
    The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical

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