Coaching practices for Personal Kanban During Conflict

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My whole day gets dictated by whatever pings in
• All my tasks live as a swirling cloud in my head, so I can never actually see the whole pile at once
• My to-do list has swollen into a dumping ground for every someday-maybe idea I’ve ever had, so it’s less a plan than a wall of guilt
• There’s this one task that’s just been sitting there untouched for days while I quietly start other things around it, and instead of facing why it’s stuck
• The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it

Practices that may help

1. Personal Kanban, Made Practical
   Personal Kanban (Jim Benson & Tonianne DeMaria Barry) adapts the industrial lean-production Kanban board for individual and small-team use. Its two rules are: visualize your work and limit work in progress (WIP). The Kanban method in manufacturing has strong evidence; the personal adaptation is a practitioner system with mechanistic grounding in cognitive load and attention research but limited formal trials in personal productivity contexts.
2. Pull work rather than having it pushed to you
   Choose your next task when you have capacity, rather than accepting whatever arrives first.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
3. Set up a simple To Do / Doing / Done board
   Three columns and sticky notes (physical or digital) are all you need to make your work visible at a glance.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
4. Only put tasks on the board that you’ve explicitly decided to do
   Your Kanban board is not a wish list — only tasks you have consciously committed to belong in To Do.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
5. Watch for cards that stay in Doing without moving
   A card that hasn’t moved in several days is a signal about a real obstacle — examine it rather than adding more work.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
6. Identify your default conflict mode
   Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
7. Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
   Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
8. Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
   The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
9. Use the Done column to learn about your work patterns
   Periodically examine completed cards for patterns in what gets done, what gets stuck, and how long things actually take.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
10. Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
    Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
    The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles

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