Coaching practices for Physical Affection Around Young Children From Previous Relationship

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• After a blow-up with my kid we both stay frozen and far apart, and I keep trying to talk it through, to get an apology, while the distance just drags on
• We barely touch anymore unless it’s leading to sex, and I miss the easy warmth
• What I miss most is the simple stuff
• My kid is full of wild physical energy and I tend to shut down the wrestling and chasing because I’m afraid it’ll spin out of control
• Something small my partner does

Practices that may help

1. Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
   Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
2. Use physical touch to reinforce emotional safety
   Touch is an attachment behavior: reaching for and being met physically reinforces the emotional bond.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
3. Physical touch
   Express affection through non-sexual touch — holding hands, hugs, a hand on the shoulder.
   The Five Love Languages, Honestly
4. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
   Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
5. Find and understand your raw spots
   A raw spot is a point of attachment vulnerability -- a past wound that current events trigger disproportionately.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
6. Rekindling after a drift: returning to aliveness
   Recognize a drift in erotic connection as normal — and name it as the beginning of a renewal, not a failure.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
7. Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
   Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
8. Be kind AND firm — simultaneously, not alternately
   Kind without firm is permissive; firm without kind is authoritarian. The practice is holding both at once.
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
9. Listen empathically and validate the feeling
   Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
10. Refuse to energize negative behavior
    Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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