Coaching practices for Positive Discipline Connection
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The second I start correcting my kid they go straight into defense mode
- My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
- I lay down a rule and my kids ignore it because it’s "my" rule they had no say in
- I praise my kid constantly
- We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
Practices that may help
- Connect before you correct
A child who feels connected to you is far more receptive to your guidance than one who feels attacked.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited. - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use family meetings to solve problems together
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Be kind AND firm — simultaneously, not alternately
Kind without firm is permissive; firm without kind is authoritarian. The practice is holding both at once.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Use logical consequences that fit the behavior
A consequence that is directly connected to the behavior teaches cause and effect instead of just imposing discomfort.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Follow through on the stated consequence calmly and without anger
The consequence teaches; the anger confuses — keep them separate.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
Related concerns
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When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Use family meetings to solve problems together
- Family Meetings Positive Discipline
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
- How Do Chores Fit In With Positive Discipline
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
- Positive Discipline Kind Firm
Kind without firm is permissive; firm without kind is authoritarian. The practice is holding both at once.
Be kind AND firm — simultaneously, not alternately
- Positive Discipline Solutions
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
- Positive Discipline Techniques
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
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