Coaching practices for Power Posing Revisited During Conflict
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes
- The moment we start arguing, any sense that I actually like and respect this person evaporates
- I came in hard because the situation called for it, but partway through the urgent part got settled and the other person clearly just needed to feel heard
- Right before something nerve-wracking I want a quick body-based way to feel a notch more sure of myself
- The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it
Practices that may help
- Power Posing Revisited
Amy Cuddy’s original 2010 claim — that two minutes of expansive posture changes hormone levels and risk-taking — failed to replicate reliably, and even one of the original co-authors distanced herself from the hormonal mechanism. The more modest finding — that posture affects subjective confidence and behavior — has held up better, though the effect sizes are small. The honest take: posture matters, the original claims were overreached, and the useful practices are simpler and more defensible than the original study suggested. - Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships - Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Adopt expansive posture to shift subjective confidence
Upright, open posture — not a "power pose" — reliably correlates with higher self-reported confidence, even if the hormone claims did not hold.
Power Posing Revisited - Identify your default conflict mode
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Fight the problem, not each other
Reorient conflict so both partners face the problem together rather than facing each other.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Convey power
Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
The Charisma Myth, Made Practical - Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Separate the person from the problem
Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Social Cognitive Theory During Conflict
Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
- Essentialism During Conflict
In any conflict, identify the values or goals you and the other person genuinely share before cataloguing differences.
Map shared values before mapping the disagreement
- The Envelope System During Conflict
The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
- The One Thing During Conflict
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
- The Orienting Response During Conflict
The orienting response (OR) is the reflexive turning of attention — head, eyes, body — toward a novel or potentially significant stimulus. When it completes naturally, it ends in a brief "ahh — not a threat" relaxation. In stress and trauma, this completion is often interrupted. Deliberately performing slow, curious orienting movements — scanning the room, letting the eyes settle — can help the nervous system complete the interrupted check and signal safety to the body. The basic reflex is classical science; the therapeutic application is established clinical practice.
- Active Constructive Responding During Conflict
Shelly Gable’s research found that how partners respond to each other’s good news — not just how they handle bad news — predicts relationship quality. There are four response styles crossed on two axes (active vs passive, constructive vs destructive); only active-constructive responding, which is enthusiastic and engaged, reliably strengthens the bond. This "capitalization" work has a solid research base in relationship science.
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