Coaching practices for Preferred Indifferents Practice
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The mixed practice feels slow and clumsy and I walk away convinced it isn’t working, so I’m tempted to go back to the easy way that at least feels productive
- I’d settled on A over B, and then a third option showed up and somehow flipped me back to B
- I notice I’d feel devastated if a choice I made went wrong, but strangely okay if the exact same bad thing happened because I just sat on my hands
- I can find a little goodwill sitting quietly on my cushion, but the second I’m out in the world
- I walked out of that sales pitch about to say yes to the "middle" option, and only later did it hit me that the pricey one they showed first was probably there just to make this one feel reasonable
Practices that may help
- Trust the harder-feeling session
Expect interleaving to feel worse in the moment — and judge it by later recall, not present ease.
Interleaving: Mix It Up to Learn It Better - Check whether a third option is changing your view of the original two
If a new option makes you change your preference between existing options, ask whether the new option should have that power.
The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice - Apply the outcome equivalence test
Ask: if the same harm resulted from action vs. inaction, which would you prefer? Divergence reveals the bias.
Omission Bias — Why Doing Nothing Feels Safer Than Acting - Use on-the-spot metta in daily life
A single breath of goodwill directed at any person you encounter is a valid metta practice.
Metta Bhavana: The Practice of Loving-Kindness - Recognize when contrast is being used on you
Awareness of the contrast principle is the antidote — evaluate options against an independent standard, not the presented sequence.
The Contrast Principle, Made Practical - On-the-spot metta in real interactions
Silently offer a quick well-wish to people you encounter during the day.
Loving-Kindness (Metta) Meditation - Always abide by the three principles
Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Investigate near and far enemies as they arise in practice
The near enemy of metta is sentimental attachment; the far enemy is ill-will. Both block genuine goodwill.
Metta Bhavana: The Practice of Loving-Kindness - Deliberate toward the virtuous mean
For any character choice, identify the deficient extreme and the excessive extreme, then aim between them.
Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom - Expose examples before naming the rule (inductive first)
Present several cases before stating the principle; let the learner induce the pattern.
Concrete Examples: How to Make Abstract Ideas Stick
Related concerns
- Right Intention Buddhism
Before a significant action or conversation, briefly ask: "Am I moving from renunciation, goodwill, or non-harming — or from craving, aversion, or delusion?"
Right intention — clarifying motivation before action
- Vipassana Goodwill Practice
End each sitting by radiating goodwill outward, softening any self-critical edge the practice surfaces.
Metta at the close — sharing merit and goodwill
- First Option Bias
Estimate what you’d accept under comparable known-odds risk — if your bar is much higher for unknown odds, that gap is the bias.
Check whether you’re demanding an unfair ambiguity premium
- How To Practice Loving Kindness
Metta bhavana (loving-kindness cultivation) is a meditation practice from the Theravada Buddhist tradition in which the practitioner systematically generates warm goodwill — beginning with themselves and expanding outward to others. Randomised controlled trials and meta-analyses find meaningful effects on positive affect, self-compassion, and reduction of negative emotions; effect sizes are moderate and most robust when practice is sustained.
- Impartial Compassion
Metta extended without equanimity can become distress; grounding goodwill in steady non-attachment makes it sustainable.
Integrate metta with equanimity to avoid compassion fatigue
- Informal Metta Practice
A single breath of goodwill directed at any person you encounter is a valid metta practice.
Use on-the-spot metta in daily life
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