Coaching practices for Preparation Before Stress

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  • In the moment my mind goes blank and the only voice in my head is “you can’t handle this”
  • Things are calm for once and part of me just wants to stop thinking about any of this
  • Right before the thing that matters
  • There’s a high-stakes thing coming
  • I’ve got the big presentation (or the hard conversation) in a few minutes and I can feel my heart already pounding

Practices that may help

  1. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
    Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
    Stress Inoculation Training
  2. Build resources proactively during good periods as inoculation
    Resilience is built before stress arrives, not during it — the preparation window is the good periods.
    Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical
  3. Practice the "see it, own it, use it" reappraisal
    Crum’s framework: notice the stress (see it), acknowledge why it matters (own it), and channel it (use it).
    The Stress-Is-Enhancing Mindset
  4. Stress Inoculation: Pre-Exposure to Prepare for Future Stress
    Deliberately practice under conditions that simulate the stress of future high-stakes performance.
    Deliberate Discomfort: Using Voluntary Challenge to Build Resilience
  5. Pre-performance heart-focused breathing
    Use 2–5 minutes of slow, heart-centered breathing before high-stakes moments to enter them calmer and sharper.
    Heart Rate Variability Training, Made Practical
  6. Practice coping under graduated real-world stress
    Move from imagined stressors to mild real ones to full-intensity situations — always with your coping tools active.
    Stress Inoculation Training
  7. Use box breathing before — not only during — stress
    Run a two-to-four minute box session before you enter a high-pressure situation to prime calmer baseline.
    Box Breathing, Made Practical
  8. Create a brief cope ahead card to take into the situation
    Write a pocket reminder of the scenario, the emotions, and the skill — so you have it when you need it.
    Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
  9. Acquire a core relaxation skill (and actually practice it until automatic)
    SIT requires one somatic coping skill — diaphragmatic breathing or PMR — trained to automaticity before stress practice begins.
    Stress Inoculation Training
  10. Havening to clear pre-performance anxiety
    Run a short havening sequence before a high-stakes event to lower physiological anxiety.
    Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch

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