Coaching practices for Problem Solving Grief
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Problem Solving Grief, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- It’s not just the missing them
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- The grief ambushes me at the worst times
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
Practices that may help
- Identify and address secondary stressors
Name the practical, identity, and relational challenges the loss has created — and work on them as restoration.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Build a positive problem orientation
Treat problems as normal, solvable challenges rather than signs of personal failure.
Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Emotional Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Four Tasks Of Grief
William Worden’s Tasks of Mourning reframes grief not as a passive set of stages to endure but as four active tasks: accepting the reality of the loss, processing the pain, adjusting to the changed world, and finding an enduring connection with the deceased. The task model is widely used in clinical grief work, though formal RCT evidence for the framework as a whole is limited — it remains an influential clinical model rather than a rigorously trialled protocol.
- How To Handle Grief
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- Neimeyer Grief Technique
Robert Neimeyer’s meaning reconstruction model holds that significant loss shatters the assumptive world — the implicit beliefs about self, others, and the future on which daily life depends — and that healthy grief requires rebuilding a coherent, meaningful life narrative that can integrate the loss. This framework is supported by observational research on grief outcomes and underpins narrative grief therapies with growing trial evidence.
- Worden S Tasks Of Mourning Under Stress
William Worden’s Tasks of Mourning reframes grief not as a passive set of stages to endure but as four active tasks: accepting the reality of the loss, processing the pain, adjusting to the changed world, and finding an enduring connection with the deceased. The task model is widely used in clinical grief work, though formal RCT evidence for the framework as a whole is limited — it remains an influential clinical model rather than a rigorously trialled protocol.
- Best Way To Deal With Grief And Loss
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
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