Coaching practices for Psychological Flexibility with My Team

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I know I keep getting in my own way, but I genuinely can’t tell whether it’s that I believe every anxious thought my mind throws at me, or that I’m bending my whole life around dodging certain feelings
  • I keep treating this like a finish line I’m supposed to reach and then beat myself up every time the old rigid patterns come back, as if slipping means I’ve failed
  • I tell my team it’s fine to be unsure, but I notice I never actually say "I don’t know" in front of them
  • Nobody on my team will say what they really think
  • I feel like I have to look certain and have all the answers in front of my team, and I’m starting to wonder if that very armor is exactly why none of them will admit when they’re unsure either.

Practices that may help

  1. Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
    Psychological flexibility — the central construct of ACT, developed by Steven Hayes — is the ability to stay in contact with present experience, hold thoughts and feelings lightly, and keep acting on your values even when discomfort is present. Meta-analyses consistently find it predicts mental health and well-being across a wide range of populations, and that increases in it mediate ACT’s therapeutic effects.
  2. Gauge your current flexibility level
    Diagnose which end of the flexibility–inflexibility axis you operate from before you try to shift it.
    Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
  3. Treat flexibility as an ongoing practice, not a state to achieve
    Psychological flexibility is trained incrementally — it is not a destination but a direction.
    Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
  4. Model fallibility as the leader
    Openly acknowledge your own uncertainty and mistakes before expecting others to do the same.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  5. Create safety for experimentation and honest challenge
    Make it safe to raise problems, test new ideas, and disagree — before expecting the team to transform.
    Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
  6. Psychological Safety in Teams
    Psychological safety — the shared belief that the team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking — is built through consistent leader behavior: inviting input, responding non-punitively to mistakes, and modeling fallibility. Amy Edmondson’s research links it to learning behaviors and team performance across healthcare, tech, and manufacturing; the causal chain from safety to performance runs through candor and error reporting, not through comfort alone.
  7. Model vulnerability and uncertainty as a leader to accelerate safety
    Deliberately share your own uncertainties, mistakes, and questions — it gives permission for others to do the same.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
  8. Build vulnerability-based trust
    Teams that can’t admit weakness, mistakes, or ignorance to each other cannot genuinely collaborate.
    The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical
  9. Diagnose which safety stage your team is currently in
    Before intervening, accurately assess whether the deficit is inclusion, learner, contributor, or challenger safety.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
  10. Build contributor safety — people offer ideas without fear of rejection
    Create conditions where team members volunteer ideas, analysis, and solutions without waiting to be asked.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety

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