Coaching practices for Reflecting on Good Deeds

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• In the moment that I help someone there’s a little glow, but I rush straight on to the next thing and by evening it’s gone
• When I look at how I actually behaved today I can only ever do one of two things
• The second I sit down to look back on my day my mind goes straight to everything that went wrong, and the whole review curdles into beating myself up
• When I sit down at night to look back on my day with God, I tend to jump straight to everything I did wrong
• My days just blur past and I never actually stop to look at how I showed up

Practices that may help

1. Reflect briefly on kind acts after doing them
   Spend two to three minutes at day’s end recalling your kindness acts — the consolidation is part of why the practice works.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
2. Look honestly at your responses
   Face where you fell short and where you acted well, without spiraling into either.
   The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
3. Begin with gratitude
   Start the review by recalling specific gifts and good moments of the day.
   The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
4. Become aware of God’s presence and give thanks
   Open the review by pausing, settling, and naming specific gifts from the day.
   The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review
5. The three-point daily self-examination
   End each day by asking three questions Zengzi — Confucius’s disciple — prescribed: loyalty, trustworthiness, mastery.
   Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach
6. Thank your past self for showing up
   Look back at a completed behavior or commitment and acknowledge your past self for doing it.
   Celebrating Small Wins
7. The evening reckoning (examen)
   Audit the day’s actions against your stated intentions — without self-punishment, just honest seeing.
   The Stoic Daily Review
8. Close each day with a karma yoga gratitude practice
   Review the day’s acts as offerings and receive the results — whatever they were — with gratitude.
   Karma Yoga: The Yoga of Selfless Action
9. Seneca’s evening court — judge the day as an honest prosecutor
   Review the day as a fair judge would: what was the evidence, what was the verdict, what is the sentence?
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
10. Close with a resolve for tomorrow
    End by choosing one concrete intention to carry into the next day.
    The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day

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