Coaching practices for Relevant Goals

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve got this whole list of goals and I honestly can’t tell anymore which ones are mine versus which I took on to look right or quiet the guilt
• I’ve only ever set myself one kind of goal
• I keep hearing that goals should "motivate without paralyzing" and I genuinely don’t know which kind to use when
• Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want
• I’m stretched across so many things I want that none of them get a real shot

Practices that may help

1. Audit why you are pursuing each goal
   Check whether each goal is driven by interest and values or by guilt and external pressure.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
2. Understand the three-goal hierarchy: outcome, performance, process
   Use all three goal types — but know which one to focus on during execution.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
3. Build a three-level goal hierarchy
   Stack outcome goals (direction), performance goals (benchmarks), and process goals (moment-to-moment focus) in a single structure.
   Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance
4. Excavate core values before writing goals
   Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
   The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self
5. Design multifinal means — activities that serve several goals at once
   Activities that advance multiple goals feel more energising and are more likely to be started.
   Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other)
6. Make stretch goals specific, not just big
   A stretch goal must be specific and measurable to trigger the mechanisms that make it work.
   Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire
7. Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other)
   Arie Kruglanski’s goal systems theory proposes that goals and the means to achieve them form an associative network in the mind, with each element linked to others. When a single means can serve multiple goals (multifinality), motivation is amplified; when goals compete for the same means or time (goal conflict), pursuing one can suppress or extinguish motivation for another. The theory is well-developed conceptually with a body of supporting experimental research.
8. Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
   Self-concordant goals, from Kennon Sheldon, are goals you pursue because they express who you genuinely are or what truly interests you — not because of guilt, social pressure, or external reward. Research finds that self-concordant goals are pursued with more sustained effort and produce greater well-being when achieved, even when the objective difficulty is held constant.
9. Using your ranked values as a coaching north star
   Return to your ranked values list every time a goal, project, or decision feels off-track.
   Values Card Sort
10. Reframe avoidance goals as approach goals
    Translate "stop failing" into "get to X" so your system aims at a target instead of a threat.
    Approach vs Avoidance Goals

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