Coaching practices for Restoration Needs Change

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The things that used to recharge me
• We had a bad fight and now I’m just waiting for things to feel normal again on their own
• It’s not just the missing them
• By the time I sit down for the one task that needs my sharpest thinking, I’m already running on empty from everything before it
• There’s no forest near me so I figure I’m out of luck, but there’s a river path and a fountain in the square I always walk past

Practices that may help

1. Match your self-care to what your current season demands
   Spring requires stimulus and novelty; autumn requires depth and consolidation — what restores you changes.
   Seasons of Life
2. Attention Restoration in Nature
   Attention Restoration Theory (Rachel and Stephen Kaplan) holds that directed attention — the effortful focus you use for work — fatigues with use, and natural environments help it recover because they hold attention gently ("soft fascination") without demanding it. There is real experimental support for cognitive and mood benefits, though effect sizes and mechanisms are still debated.
3. Actively restore the ratio after a major rupture
   After a bad fight, the ratio is temporarily negative -- restoration requires intentional positive investment.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
4. Identify and address secondary stressors
   Name the practical, identity, and relational challenges the loss has created — and work on them as restoration.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
5. Restore before demanding work, not just after
   Schedule nature exposure ahead of cognitively demanding tasks.
   Attention Restoration in Nature
6. Seek both green and blue space
   Include water settings, not only greenery, in your restorative time.
   Attention Restoration in Nature
7. Apply explicit values criteria before reinstating any technology
   Reinstate a technology only if it clearly serves something you genuinely value — not merely because you used to have it.
   The Digital Declutter, Made Practical
8. Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
   Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
   Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
9. Recognize and recover from stage regression
   A team that was Performing can drop back to Storming — and the recovery move is different from the original ascent.
   Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
10. Let repeated repair build earned security
    Each successful repair teaches "we can break and come back" — which is what makes a relationship feel safe.
    Rupture and Repair

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