Coaching practices for Ride the Wave Urge Surfing

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  • When a craving hits it feels like it’ll just keep building and building until I cave
  • I either fight the urge with everything I’ve got or I give in — there’s no third option in me.
  • Every craving still feels like the first one, just as overwhelming as ever
  • The urge to bail hits like it’s non-negotiable, like I have to act on it right now
  • The urges seem to come out of nowhere, but I’m starting to suspect they don’t

Practices that may help

  1. Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
    "Riding the wave" is a mindfulness-based urge management technique: rather than acting on an urge or fighting it, you observe it as a rising and falling wave of physical sensation, without doing anything. Urges are time-limited; if not acted upon or fought, they peak and subside. The technique has observational support specifically in addiction contexts (urge surfing), and the underlying mechanism — that urges are temporary physiological events — is consistent with mindfulness and DBT research.
  2. Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
    Urge surfing means treating a craving like a wave — observing it rise, peak, and fall instead of either fighting it or acting on it. Drawn from Alan Marlatt’s mindfulness-based relapse prevention, it works because urges are time-limited and pass on their own when not fed. It is a well-established clinical technique for everyday cravings; for serious addiction, it belongs alongside professional support, not instead of it.
  3. Ride the wave to its peak and down
    Watch the urge rise, crest, and fall without acting — like a wave you are surfing.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
  4. Observe without obeying
    Watch the urge fully — feel its pull, note its strength — without doing anything it demands.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  5. Build urge tolerance over time
    Deliberately expose yourself to urges without acting on them — tolerance grows with repeated, successful riding.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  6. Surf the urge to avoid instead of obeying it
    Treat the avoidance impulse as a wave to observe and outlast, not a command to obey.
    Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
  7. Map your urge triggers
    Know the specific situations, emotions, and states that reliably trigger your urges — so you can intervene before they crest.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  8. Locate the urge in your body
    Track where the urge lives physically — in tension, heat, agitation — rather than engaging with the thought that wants you to act.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  9. Urge Surfing: Riding Out the Impulse Without Acting
    Treat an urge to act impulsively like a wave — observe it rise and fall without being swept away.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  10. Understand the anatomy of an urge
    Learn that urges have a beginning, a peak, and an end — and that acting on or fighting them changes the arc.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical

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