Coaching practices for Safety Behavior Fading with Friends

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  • I can only do certain things if a particular person comes with me
  • Every time I get through a feared situation I credit the crutch
  • I can get through the scary thing now, but only with my little crutches
  • I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch
  • I get through the hard situations, but only with my little crutches

Practices that may help

  1. Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
    Safety behaviors are actions people take to prevent feared outcomes during anxious situations — sitting to avoid fainting, avoiding eye contact to seem less socially threatening, checking repeatedly to prevent disaster. Paul Salkovskis identified them as a central maintenance mechanism: they prevent the person from learning that the feared outcome would not have happened anyway. Fading them — systematically reducing their use — is an evidence-supported component of CBT for anxiety disorders, with the strongest evidence in panic and social anxiety.
  2. Fade reliance on a support person
    Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  3. Run a disconfirmation experiment without the safety behavior
    Enter the feared situation without the safety behavior and observe what actually happens.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  4. Eliminate safety behaviors
    Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
    Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
  5. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  6. Dropping Safety Behaviors Within Experiments
    Remove the subtle avoidance strategies (safety behaviors) that prevent experiments from genuinely testing the belief.
    Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World
  7. Fade reassurance-seeking
    Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  8. Build and use social safety signals
    Establish cues in your relationships that communicate "you are safe here" — reducing anticipatory social stress.
    Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
  9. Reduce covert mental safety behaviors
    Identify and fade the mental acts — rehearsing, planning, distraction — that serve the same function as overt avoidance.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  10. Surround yourself with people whose behaviors align with your health goals
    Obesity, smoking, and exercise habits are socially contagious — the people around you are your health environment.
    Blue Zone Principles: The Power 9 Longevity Practices

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