Coaching practices for Schedule Special Time Children
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep meaning to spend real one-on-one time with my kid but it gets squeezed out by everything else, and I think the unpredictability is part of why they keep grabbing at me
- I schedule every single slot back-to-back, so the moment one unexpected thing lands
- I know what my priorities are, but they live on a list while my calendar fills up with everyone else’s meetings
- Every hour of my week is booked back-to-back, so the moment anything runs over the whole day cascades into lateness and panic
- My schedule just opened up
Practices that may help
- Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
Special time is a structured daily or near-daily practice of ten to twenty minutes of fully child-directed, uninterrupted one-on-one play, drawn from Lawrence Cohen's Playful Parenting framework. It fills the child’s attachment "cup," reduces bids for attention through misbehavior, and builds the relationship reserve that makes limits and teaching more effective. Clinical and observational evidence consistently supports child-directed play as a relationship and behavior intervention. - Build buffer blocks into the ideal week
Schedule 60–90 minutes of unallocated buffer each day to absorb the unexpected without derailing priorities.
Ideal Week Design - Schedule rocks in your calendar before anything else
Block time for your rocks in the first planning step — before reactive commitments fill the day.
The Pickle Jar Theory of Time Management - Protecting unscheduled time
Leave deliberate gaps in the calendar instead of filling every hour.
Slow Living, Made Practical - Activate someday items when life opens up, not just when you decide to
The someday list is not just a holding pen — it is a menu for the next season of life.
The Someday List - Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Schedule and protect the date like a professional appointment
The artist date is skipped whenever it is optional — scheduling it as a fixed commitment is what makes it happen.
The Artist Date, Made Practical - Values-based scheduling
Block time for purpose-aligned activities before reactive obligations fill the calendar.
Purpose Anchors: Keeping Meaning Accessible Day to Day - Make time before the day fills
Block time for the Highlight first, so it isn’t left to leftover scraps of the day.
Make Time, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Make Time As A Parent
Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
- Make Time For My Teenager
Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
- Book The Trip Now
Put money and a date on one item before the session ends — nothing else converts intention to action as reliably.
Fund and schedule one item now
- Schedule Positive Experiences
Pleasant events scheduling, developed by Peter Lewinsohn as part of behavioural activation, combats depression by deliberately reintroducing activities that generate positive reinforcement — reversing the withdrawal-and-low-mood cycle at its behavioural root. Multiple randomised trials support behavioural activation, of which pleasant events scheduling is a foundational component.
- Activity Scheduling
Schedule 60–90 minutes of unallocated buffer each day to absorb the unexpected without derailing priorities.
Build buffer blocks into the ideal week
- Buffer Block Calendar
Block time for your rocks in the first planning step — before reactive commitments fill the day.
Schedule rocks in your calendar before anything else
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