Coaching practices for Seasons of Life After a Setback

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  • Everything that used to give my life shape suddenly feels hollow and the new thing hasn’t arrived yet, so I’m stuck in this disorienting in-between
  • The things that used to recharge me
  • Some of my closest friendships feel like we’re living in different worlds now, and I feel guilty for drifting
  • When a setback hits I’m always blindsided, like I’d quietly assumed everything would just keep going fine
  • I honestly can’t tell where I am in my own life right now

Practices that may help

  1. Seasons of Life
    The seasons-of-life framework treats adult development as a sequence of distinct phases — each with its own natural demands, appropriate priorities, and transition challenges. Drawing on developmental psychology (Levinson, Erikson, Sheehy) and practical life-design work, it argues that straining against your current season (trying to do spring work in autumn, or refusing to accept a transition) produces more distress than the season itself.
  2. Navigate season transitions — the gap is normal and necessary
    The confusion and loss of meaning between seasons is structural, not personal failure.
    Seasons of Life
  3. Match your self-care to what your current season demands
    Spring requires stimulus and novelty; autumn requires depth and consolidation — what restores you changes.
    Seasons of Life
  4. Review whether your key relationships are season-appropriate
    Some relationships that sustained you in a past season may be misaligned with your current one — and vice versa.
    Seasons of Life
  5. Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum)
    Briefly imagine losing what you have, so you stop taking it for granted and brace for setbacks.
    Stoicism, as a Set of Practices
  6. Identify your current season honestly
    Name the season you are actually in — not the one you want to be in or the one others expect.
    Seasons of Life
  7. Spot redemption and contamination sequences
    Find the patterns in how your stories of setback and success tend to end.
    Narrative Identity, Made Practical
  8. Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal
    Build a routine for bouncing back so setbacks don’t end the pursuit.
    Grit: Passion and Perseverance, Honestly Assessed
  9. Treat relapse as a predictable part of the process, not a failure
    Most people cycle through the stages several times before achieving lasting change — plan for it.
    The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
  10. Name the "before" and create a deliberate "after"
    Give the period before the setback a name and declare a clean break — the act of naming creates the separation.
    Fresh Start Framing: Engineering Your Own Clean Slate

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