Coaching practices for Shame Triggers Cft

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The same kinds of moments tip me into that “I’m a failure” spiral over and over
• The critic in my head runs nonstop but it’s all a blur
• The shame keeps ambushing me in the same handful of areas
• When the shame hits I’m already gone
• Something hits me and within seconds I’ve gone hot, I want to disappear or I lash out

Practices that may help

1. Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
   Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT), developed by Paul Gilbert, targets shame and self-criticism by training a compassionate inner voice to replace the punitive self-critic. It draws on evolutionary psychology and affective neuroscience — specifically, the finding that different emotional systems (threat, drive, soothing) have distinct neurobiological profiles. A growing body of RCT evidence supports CFT for shame-based difficulties, self-criticism, and depression, though the evidence base is smaller than for CBT.
2. Map your personal shame triggers
   Identify the specific situations, feedback, or comparisons that reliably activate shame in you.
   Shame vs. Guilt: Why the Distinction Changes Everything
3. Recognizing Shame and Self-Criticism Patterns
   Name the specific self-critical scripts and their triggers before trying to change them.
   Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
4. Identify your shame triggers and their cultural context
   Shame is always triggered in a specific domain and shaped by cultural expectations — knowing your triggers reduces their power to ambush you.
   Shame Resilience, Made Practical
5. Speak shame before you act from it
   Shame drives automatic behavior — disconnecting, attacking, numbing — before we are aware of it. The pause to name and speak shame changes the behavioral outcome.
   Shame Resilience, Made Practical
6. Name shame when it is happening
   The first move in shame resilience is recognizing the emotion as shame — not anger, self-pity, withdrawal, or "just feeling bad."
   Shame Resilience, Made Practical
7. The Three-Circle Model: Mapping Your Emotional Systems
   Understand your threat, drive, and soothing systems — and learn which is overactive in your life.
   Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
8. Share shame with someone safe
   Naming shame to a person who responds with empathy is the single most effective shame antidote Brown identified.
   Shame Resilience, Made Practical
9. Build shame resilience by naming and sharing it
   Shame loses power when it is named, then shared with at least one trusted person.
   Shame vs. Guilt: Why the Distinction Changes Everything
10. Meet the urge without judging yourself
    Treat having an urge as normal and human, not as evidence of weakness.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving

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