Coaching practices for Should I Allow My Child to Drop an Activity Just Because He S Lost Interest
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- When my kid acts out I lose it
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- My kid won’t put on the coat, won’t pack the lunch, and every fiber of me wants to swoop in and save them from the small fallout
- On paper nothing’s wrong
- There was this hobby I genuinely loved until I started tracking it and tying rewards to it, and now the spark is just gone
Practices that may help
- Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Monitor intrinsic interest over time
Overjustification is a slow erosion — check whether you still find the work interesting, not just whether you’re doing it.
The Overjustification Effect: When Rewards Kill Motivation - Protect intrinsic motivation from over-justification
Be careful with rewards on things you already enjoy — they can undermine the enjoyment.
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Recover intrinsic interest after it has been crowded out
Intrinsic interest that has been undermined can often be partially recovered by removing the reward and reconnecting to original reasons.
The Overjustification Effect: When Rewards Kill Motivation
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