Coaching practices for Should Self Talk

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I already know the exact situations that throw me
• When a problem gets hard my mind just goes quiet and blank and I sort of stall out staring at it
• I’d never speak to anyone else the way I speak to myself
• I want to fix what I say to myself when I compete, but if I’m honest I can’t even reliably remember what that was
• The second I’m hurting, the voice in my head turns cold and contemptuous and piles on

Practices that may help

1. Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
   Self-talk — the internal or external commentary we generate before and during performance — reliably affects performance outcomes, according to meta-analyses by Hatzigeorgiadis and colleagues. Instructional self-talk improves fine motor skill; motivational self-talk improves power and endurance tasks. The specific content and function of the self-talk matter more than whether it is positive or negative.
2. Prepare "if-then" self-talk scripts for predictable pressure moments
   Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
3. Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
   Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
   Zone of Proximal Development: Learning at Your Real Edge
4. Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk
   Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend in the same situation.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
5. Monitor your self-talk patterns to identify what to change
   Track what you actually say to yourself during and after performance before trying to change it.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
6. Warm self-talk
   Speak to yourself in distress the way you would speak to a struggling friend — warmly, honestly, and without blame.
   Self-Soothing, Made Practical
7. Use motivational self-talk for endurance and power tasks
   Pump yourself up verbally for tasks requiring effort, strength, or push through discomfort.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
8. Developing the Compassionate Self Voice
   Build an inner voice that responds to your suffering with wisdom, warmth, and commitment to wellbeing.
   Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
9. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
   Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
   Stress Inoculation Training
10. Use thought-stopping to interrupt negative self-talk spirals
    Install a deliberate interruption cue that breaks self-critical rumination before it compounds.
    Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical

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