Coaching practices for Skater Teen Wears Shoes with Holes and Doesn't Care
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- When nobody’s watching and skipping would go completely unnoticed, that’s exactly when I let the small discipline slide
- I shrink my life down to avoid any chance of looking foolish
- When I try to explain this to someone who knows nothing about it and they keep asking "but why does that happen?" at exactly the spots I’d normally skate over, I get stuck and exposed
- I’m sure everyone is cataloguing my flaws, but if I’m honest I couldn’t tell you a single thing about what the person next to me on the train was wearing or whether they messed anything up
- Every time I try to squat low my heels lift off the floor and I tip backward
Practices that may help
- Treat each small discipline as a "moment of truth" for your future self
The slight edge lives in the gap between what you do when no one is watching and what you said you’d do.
The Slight Edge: Jeff Olson’s Philosophy of Consistent Small Actions - Shame-attacking exercises
Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Third-party explanation test
Explain the concept to a person who knows nothing about it and let their questions expose your gaps.
Illusion of Explanatory Depth: You Know Less Than You Think - Recall how little you notice others
Inventory how often you notice strangers’ flaws — then apply that rate to yourself.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Ankle dorsiflexion work
Restore the ankle bend that governs squat depth, gait mechanics, and knee tracking.
Mobility Training, Made Practical - Attention on foot and ground contact
Feel the full arc of each step — heel, arch, ball, toe — rather than moving through steps on autopilot.
Kinhin: Zen Walking Meditation - Normalize the blunder with a brief, light acknowledgment
Naming a slip lightly and moving on defuses it faster than hoping no one noticed.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Noticing beauty in imperfection
Train the eye to find interest and beauty in wear, asymmetry, and age rather than seeing them as defects.
Wabi-Sabi: Finding Beauty in Imperfection - Update your beliefs about your own learning based on evidence
Treat your learning self-concept as a hypothesis to test, not a fixed truth.
The Learning Styles Myth: What the Research Actually Says - Care personally without lowering the bar
Ruinous empathy masquerades as caring — real care means holding the standard because you want them to succeed.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
Related concerns
- Do It When No One Is Watching
The slight edge lives in the gap between what you do when no one is watching and what you said you’d do.
Treat each small discipline as a "moment of truth" for your future self
- Ellis Embarrassment Exercise
Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
Shame-attacking exercises
- Fear Of Embarrassment Check
Before assuming a social blunder is remembered, wait a day and ask if it was ever mentioned.
Run the "did it matter?" check 24 hours later
- How Do I Recover From My Social Awkwardness Being Pointed Out
Before assuming a social blunder is remembered, wait a day and ask if it was ever mentioned.
- When Elaboration Likelihood Model Two Sided Messages
Acknowledge the strongest objection, then refute it — this is more persuasive than ignoring it.
Use two-sided messages with a sophisticated audience
- When Unconditional Self Acceptance Shame Attacking Exercises
Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
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