Coaching practices for Social Learning Parenting

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
  • My kid won’t put on the coat, won’t pack the lunch, and every fiber of me wants to swoop in and save them from the small fallout
  • I lay down a rule and my kids ignore it because it’s "my" rule they had no say in
  • When I ask my kid about their day I get one-word answers, and I realize I only ever ask about homework and chores
  • I praise my kid constantly

Practices that may help

  1. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
    Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  2. Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
    Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
    Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
  3. Use family meetings to solve problems together
    When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  4. Talk with your child about their day and interests
    Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  5. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
    Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  6. Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
    Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
  7. Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
    Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
  8. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
    Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  9. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
    Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  10. Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
    Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)

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