Coaching practices for Social Support Behavior Change

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Social Support Behavior Change, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • Nobody around me does this thing, so I’m always the odd one out swimming against the room
  • I keep sliding back toward whatever the people around me do, and right now nobody in my circle does the thing I’m trying to build
  • The people I lean on give me the wrong kind of help at the wrong time
  • The people I’m around most all live the opposite of what I’m trying to become
  • I’ve been white-knuckling this change through sheer willpower and keep collapsing back

Practices that may help

  1. Use social opportunity — others who make the behavior normal
    Position yourself in social contexts where your target behavior is modeled, expected, or easy to perform with others.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  2. Engineer your social environment to support the behaviors you want
    The people around you are the most powerful environmental determinant of behavior — choose and structure social exposure intentionally.
    Environment Design for Behavior Change
  3. Enlist a helping relationship appropriate to your stage
    The kind of support that helps in preparation (accountability) is different from what helps in contemplation (empathy).
    The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
  4. Surround yourself with people whose behaviors align with your health goals
    Obesity, smoking, and exercise habits are socially contagious — the people around you are your health environment.
    Blue Zone Principles: The Power 9 Longevity Practices
  5. Use reciprocal determinism to change behavior by changing environment or cognition first
    Because person, behavior, and environment influence each other, changing any one of them can shift the whole system.
    Social Cognitive Theory
  6. Apply the experiential processes early, behavioral ones later
    Use consciousness-raising and emotional arousal early; counter-conditioning and stimulus control after you commit.
    The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
  7. Social Cognitive Theory
    Albert Bandura’s social cognitive theory holds that behavior is shaped by the interplay of personal factors, environmental influences, and behavior itself — a model called reciprocal determinism. Its most practically important contribution is self-efficacy: the belief that you can execute a specific behavior in a specific context. Self-efficacy is one of the most consistently supported predictors of behavior change outcomes across health, work, and learning domains.
  8. Install feedback loops to track behavior and adjust
    Measure the behavior directly and use the data to update your intervention, not just your motivation.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  9. Use belief and community to make change stick
    A supportive group and a belief that change is possible help new habits survive stress.
    The Power of Habit, Made Practical
  10. Build hardy social support — encouragement toward action, not just comfort
    The most useful support in hardiness builds your sense of commitment, control, and challenge — not just makes you feel better.
    Psychological Hardiness, Made Practical

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