Coaching practices for Special Time Lawrence Cohen Playful Parenting After a Loss

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• After a blow-up with my kid we both stay frozen and far apart, and I keep trying to talk it through, to get an apology, while the distance just drags on
• There’s a window every day
• I keep meaning to spend real one-on-one time with my kid but it gets squeezed out by everything else, and I think the unpredictability is part of why they keep grabbing at me
• My kid is full of wild physical energy and I tend to shut down the wrestling and chasing because I’m afraid it’ll spin out of control
• Their birthday and the anniversary loom and I never know what to do with those days

Practices that may help

1. Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
   Special time is a structured daily or near-daily practice of ten to twenty minutes of fully child-directed, uninterrupted one-on-one play, drawn from Lawrence Cohen's Playful Parenting framework. It fills the child’s attachment "cup," reduces bids for attention through misbehavior, and builds the relationship reserve that makes limits and teaching more effective. Clinical and observational evidence consistently supports child-directed play as a relationship and behavior intervention.
2. Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
   Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
3. Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
   A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
4. Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
   Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
5. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
   Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
6. Create meaningful grief rituals
   Establish regular practices that honour the person and mark the ongoing relationship.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
7. Share the continuing bond in community
   Talk about the person with others who knew and loved them, keeping the relationship alive in shared memory.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
8. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
9. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
   When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
10. Create a deliberate grief window
    Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical

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