Coaching practices for Storytelling Circle Conflict
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Storytelling Circle Conflict, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Our group rushes straight to “so what do we do about it,” and we’re trying to solve something nobody has actually been allowed to tell their side of yet
- People show up to our hard conversations still carrying whatever happened ten minutes before
- When we sit down to hash something out, it always turns into me-versus-them across the table, and I’m looking for a way to give everyone something shared to focus on so it stops feeling like two sides squaring off.
- I have to bring people into a hard conversation, and I already know everyone’s going to walk in braced for a fight
- Whenever I run one of these conversations I can’t stop myself from jumping in to fix it
Practices that may help
- Use a storytelling round to build mutual understanding before solving
Before moving to resolution, give each person a round to tell their experience of what happened.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Use check-in and check-out rounds to hold the whole person
Every circle opens with a personal check-in and closes with a check-out — creating a container with a beginning and an end.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Design a centerpiece that holds the circle’s purpose
A shared object at the center of the circle externalizes the group’s collective intention.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Open every circle by naming shared values
Shared values create the psychological container that makes honest dialogue possible.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - The keeper holds process, not content
The circle keeper’s job is to protect the process — not to facilitate outcomes, give advice, or judge.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Use the talking piece to enforce equal voice
Only the person holding the talking piece speaks — everyone else listens.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - The Circle Process (Kay Pranis)
The circle process, developed by Kay Pranis from Indigenous peacemaking traditions, is a structured group conversation that uses a shared centerpiece, a talking piece, and guiding values to create a space where every voice has equal weight. It’s used for conflict resolution, community building, and harm repair. Research on circle use in schools and communities shows improvements in discipline rates, sense of belonging, and conflict outcomes, though rigorous experimental evidence is limited. - Name the antagonist: what is the obstacle, not who
Every compelling story has something working against the protagonist — name the force, not a person.
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical - Build a shared "third story"
Open with a neutral framing both sides could accept, not your version of events.
Difficult Conversations, Made Practical - Start from the "third story"
Instead of your story or their story, open from the neutral observer view: "We see this differently."
Looping for Understanding (Difficult Conversations)
Related concerns
- Circle Process Facilitation
The circle keeper’s job is to protect the process — not to facilitate outcomes, give advice, or judge.
The keeper holds process, not content
- Circle Process Kay Pranis
The circle process, developed by Kay Pranis from Indigenous peacemaking traditions, is a structured group conversation that uses a shared centerpiece, a talking piece, and guiding values to create a space where every voice has equal weight. It’s used for conflict resolution, community building, and harm repair. Research on circle use in schools and communities shows improvements in discipline rates, sense of belonging, and conflict outcomes, though rigorous experimental evidence is limited.
- Four Circles Meaning Framework
A shared object at the center of the circle externalizes the group’s collective intention.
Design a centerpiece that holds the circle’s purpose
- Peacemaking Circle
The circle process, developed by Kay Pranis from Indigenous peacemaking traditions, is a structured group conversation that uses a shared centerpiece, a talking piece, and guiding values to create a space where every voice has equal weight. It’s used for conflict resolution, community building, and harm repair. Research on circle use in schools and communities shows improvements in discipline rates, sense of belonging, and conflict outcomes, though rigorous experimental evidence is limited.
- Reconciliation Circle
Every circle opens with a personal check-in and closes with a check-out — creating a container with a beginning and an end.
Use check-in and check-out rounds to hold the whole person
- Restorative Circle
The circle process, developed by Kay Pranis from Indigenous peacemaking traditions, is a structured group conversation that uses a shared centerpiece, a talking piece, and guiding values to create a space where every voice has equal weight. It’s used for conflict resolution, community building, and harm repair. Research on circle use in schools and communities shows improvements in discipline rates, sense of belonging, and conflict outcomes, though rigorous experimental evidence is limited.
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