Coaching practices for The 10 10 10 Rule with Friends

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• This whole thing will be over and done within a day, so asking how I’ll feel in ten years is absurd
• Under all this pressure to please people and react, I’m about to make a call that I already sense doesn’t square with who I actually want to be
• I’m staring at a choice and the only thing I can feel is how it lands right now
• The friends who used to matter most have quietly slipped to "we should catch up sometime," and I keep meaning to reach out but life never stops being busy
• One-on-one keeps falling apart the second the other person gets busy

Practices that may help

1. The 10-10-10 Rule
   Suzy Welch's 10-10-10 rule asks you to evaluate a decision through three time horizons: how will I feel about this in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years? It is a heuristic for countering short-term emotional reactions by making long-run consequences more cognitively vivid. Evidence for the technique specifically is limited, but it draws on well-supported research on temporal discounting and affective forecasting.
2. Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision
   10-10-10 is a template — adjust the horizons to the real timescale of the choice.
   The 10-10-10 Rule
3. Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
   Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
   The 10-10-10 Rule
4. Apply all three horizons explicitly
   Before deciding, write a sentence answering each: 10 minutes, 10 months, 10 years.
   The 10-10-10 Rule
5. Schedule deliberate investment in your important friendships
   Identify your most important friendships and make a concrete plan to reach out this week — not when conditions are easier.
   The Regret of the Dying
6. The 50/30/20 Budget: A Simple Framework for Where Your Money Goes
   The 50/30/20 rule allocates after-tax income to needs (50%), wants (30%), and savings or debt (20%). It is a simple, memorable framework that works well as a starting point, but the percentages are guidelines, not scientific optima — anyone in a high cost-of-living area or with significant debt will likely need to adjust them.
7. Join a small accountability group
   Report to a small group rather than one person to add redundancy and social proof.
   Accountability Partners
8. Warren Buffett’s Two-List Strategy
   The Buffett two-list strategy asks you to write down 25 career or life goals, circle the top 5, then treat everything else on the list as active avoidances — not "do later" items. The story is apocryphal and its precise origin is unverified, but the underlying principle — that near-priority goals steal attention from top priorities — is consistent with how cognitive resources and opportunity costs work.
9. Adjust the percentages to your cost of living and income
   The 50/30/20 rule is a starting framework, not a rule that fits every income level or location.
   The 50/30/20 Budget: A Simple Framework for Where Your Money Goes
10. Use the 10-year horizon as a regret test
    Ask: in 10 years, will I regret not doing this more than doing it?
    The 10-10-10 Rule

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