Coaching practices for The Annual Review Tim Ferriss Method During Conflict

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  • When I look at what went wrong this year I catch myself blaming the timing, other people, the circumstances
  • When I do this alone in my head it’s too easy to let myself off the hook and skate past the uncomfortable parts
  • We solve the immediate thing but the same ugly dynamic underneath stays exactly the same, so the next disagreement plays out identically
  • Every year I pile new goals on top of an already-overloaded life and wonder why none of them stick
  • The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it

Practices that may help

  1. The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
    Tim Ferriss’s annual review is built on two questions — "What went well this year?" and "What did not go well this year?" — applied systematically across major life domains and answered with enough specificity to produce different decisions next year. It is a practitioner tool without clinical evidence, but its mechanisms (structured reflection, explicit failure review, behavioral specificity) are consistent with goal-review and learning research.
  2. Spend more time on "what did not go well" than on what did
    Failure analysis contains the most actionable information in any honest review.
    The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
  3. Share the review with someone who will ask honest questions
    A review held privately is easier to fudge; one shared with an honest questioner is harder to rationalize.
    The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
  4. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
    Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical
  5. Generate a stop-doing list, not just a to-do list for next year
    What you stop doing next year is as important as what you start.
    The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
  6. Identify your default conflict mode
    Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
  7. Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
    Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
    The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
  8. Run a quarterly focus review to refresh the lists
    Revisit and rebuild both lists every quarter — priorities shift, and so should the lists.
    Warren Buffett’s Two-List Strategy
  9. Build a regular AAR cadence, not just crisis-triggered reviews
    Reviews triggered only by problems create a negative-events database; a regular cadence captures ordinary learning that compounds.
    After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
  10. Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
    The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)

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