Coaching practices for The Examined Life with My Team

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’m living by a whole set of rules about how life should go, and it’s started to dawn on me that I never actually chose most of them
  • There’s a "this is just how it’s done" rule everyone in my world treats as gospel
  • I say family and health are what matter most to me, but if you looked at where my hours and attention actually went this month you’d never guess it
  • I can think of a few times in my life when I felt genuinely, fully alive, and I want to study what those moments had in common
  • I do these life check-ins alone in my head and then quietly let them slide, and I think if I actually said the low scores out loud to someone who’d remember, I couldn’t just keep ignoring them the way I always do.

Practices that may help

  1. The Examined Life
    Socrates’ claim that "the unexamined life is not worth living" (Apology, 38a) means that a life lived without sustained reflection on one’s values, beliefs, and actions is a kind of sleepwalking. The Socratic method — elenchus — is a specific form of examination: honest questioning that surfaces inconsistencies and untested assumptions. As a practice, it overlaps with metacognition and reflective practice, which have genuine evidence bases, though Socrates’ philosophical claim is stronger than any psychological finding.
  2. Conduct a regular examined-life audit
    Periodically ask: which of the beliefs I am living by have I actually examined, and which am I just inheriting?
    The Socratic Method, Made Practical
  3. Question what everyone takes for granted
    Choose one widely shared assumption — in your field, your culture, or your circle — and examine it honestly.
    The Examined Life
  4. Know thyself — map your actual values against your actions
    Compare what you say you value with what your behavior reveals you actually value.
    The Examined Life
  5. Peak experience analysis
    Study your life-line high points for the values and conditions they share — they reveal what fully alive looks like for you.
    The Life Line Exercise
  6. Use the wheel as a relationship check-in, not just a solo exercise
    Sharing your wheel with a partner, coach, or trusted friend turns a self-assessment into a conversation and a commitment.
    The Wheel of Life, Made Practical
  7. The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
    The Examen is a short, structured evening review from the Ignatian tradition: you replay the day with gratitude and honest attention to where you felt drawn toward or away from your values, then carry one resolve into tomorrow. It is a centuries-old contemplative practice; its benefits are best described as mechanistically plausible and widely reported rather than established by controlled trials.
  8. Engage in genuine philosophical dialogue
    Have a conversation with the goal of getting clearer together, not of winning or validating.
    The Examined Life
  9. Question your own assumptions with Socratic rigor
    Take a belief you hold confidently and submit it to the Socratic question: "What do you actually mean by that?"
    The Examined Life
  10. Keep it brief and daily
    Do a short Examen most days rather than a long one occasionally.
    The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day

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