Coaching practices for The Feeling Wheel Building Emotional Vocabulary as a Parent

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  • I’m realizing my whole emotional vocabulary is about five words, so everything that isn’t happy just gets dumped into "bad"
  • Someone asks how I’m doing and all I’ve got is "fine" or "stressed," and even to myself that’s as far as it goes
  • When I journal I just rehash what happened
  • My child has these huge feelings with no words for them
  • I can analyze my feelings all day long, but it stays in my head and never actually moves through me

Practices that may help

  1. The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
    The Feeling Wheel, developed by counselor Gloria Willcox in 1982, is a visual tool that organizes emotions in concentric rings from six core emotions (glad, mad, sad, scared, disgusted, powerful) outward to increasingly specific nuanced feelings. It helps people name their emotional experience more precisely — a capacity research calls emotional granularity — which is associated with better emotional regulation and reduced distress.
  2. Expand your emotional range by studying the outer rings
    Spend 5 minutes with the outer ring of the Feeling Wheel weekly, learning the names of emotions you do not yet use.
    The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
  3. Daily emotion naming with the Feeling Wheel
    Each day, use the Feeling Wheel to name your emotional state with at least one layer of precision beyond the core word.
    The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
  4. Emotion journaling using the Feeling Wheel as a prompt
    Keep a brief emotion journal that uses Feeling Wheel vocabulary rather than event descriptions.
    The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
  5. Help the child label the emotion with words
    Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
  6. Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it
    After naming an emotion on the Feeling Wheel, find where it lives in the body.
    The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
  7. Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
    Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
  8. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
    Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
  9. Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
    Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
    Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
  10. Listen empathically and validate the feeling
    Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)

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