Coaching practices for The Fogg Behavior Model After a Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I do the thing and feel nothing
• I keep failing at the same thing and I’ve decided I’m just lazy or weak
• Some days I do it without thinking and other days I just can’t get over the hump, and the maddening part is nothing obvious changed
• It’s fine when I’m fresh, but by the time I’m drained at the end of the day the thing I planned feels impossible
• Every so often I get this burst of fire

Practices that may help

1. The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
   BJ Fogg’s model states that behavior happens when three elements converge at the same moment: sufficient motivation, sufficient ability, and a prompt. If a behavior isn’t happening, one of these three is the bottleneck — and diagnosing which one tells you exactly what to change. The model is practitioner-developed with strong theoretical grounding; large-scale RCT evidence is limited but the framework is widely used in product design and behavior change programs.
2. Celebrate immediately after each behavior with a felt sense of success
   Immediate positive emotion after a behavior is the mechanism by which habits are wired in — celebrate every repetition.
   The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
3. Diagnose which element — motivation, ability, or prompt — is the bottleneck
   When a behavior isn’t happening, ask: Is the person motivated enough? Can they do it? Are they being prompted?
   The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
4. Understand the action line — the threshold where behavior fires
   Every behavior has a required minimum of motivation × ability; staying above that action line is the design goal.
   The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
5. Calibrate the behavior to current ability, not future aspirations
   Match behavior difficulty to the resources you actually have at the prompt moment, not your best-case capacity.
   The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
6. Surf motivation waves rather than engineering baseline motivation
   Motivation is unreliable and peaks are temporary — use high-motivation moments to redesign prompts and ability, not just to behave better.
   The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
7. Celebrate immediately to wire it in
   Generate a genuine flash of positive emotion the instant you do the tiny behavior.
   Tiny Habits, Made Practical
8. Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
   Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
9. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
   Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
10. Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
    Safety behaviors are actions people take to prevent feared outcomes during anxious situations — sitting to avoid fainting, avoiding eye contact to seem less socially threatening, checking repeatedly to prevent disaster. Paul Salkovskis identified them as a central maintenance mechanism: they prevent the person from learning that the feared outcome would not have happened anyway. Fading them — systematically reducing their use — is an evidence-supported component of CBT for anxiety disorders, with the strongest evidence in panic and social anxiety.

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