Coaching practices for The Good Life Lessons From the Harvard Study Before Bed

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  • I lie down at night and my brain runs a highlight reel of everything I got wrong today
  • Every night before bed looks completely different depending on my mood
  • I keep telling myself I’ll make real time for the people I love once I hit the next work milestone, and that milestone never stops moving
  • At night my mind either replays only what I screwed up until I can’t sleep, or it skates past the day entirely
  • I catch myself just waiting for my turn to talk instead of really hearing the person in front of me

Practices that may help

  1. The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
    The Harvard Study of Adult Development — the longest longitudinal study of adult life, directed today by Robert Waldinger — found that the strongest predictor of long-term health and happiness is the quality of our relationships, not wealth or fame. It is real, decades-long research, but it is observational: it shows relationships and wellbeing move together, which is strong but not proof of pure cause.
  2. Write three good things and their causes each evening
    Before sleep, write three specific good things that happened and — crucially — why each one happened.
    Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
  3. Anchor the wind-down with a consistent starting cue
    A repeated pre-sleep ritual — a specific tea, a book, a certain playlist — becomes a conditioned cue that induces sleepiness over time.
    The Wind-Down Routine: Engineering Your Path to Sleep
  4. Investing in people over status
    Direct discretionary time and energy toward relationships, not just career and acquisition.
    The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
  5. The Pythagorean evening examination (Hadot’s version)
    Before sleep, review the day in three questions: Where did I go wrong? What did I succeed at? What remains undone?
    Pierre Hadot’s Spiritual Exercises
  6. Genuine curiosity about others
    Ask real questions and listen, instead of waiting to talk.
    The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
  7. The daily examen (end-of-day review)
    Spend five minutes each evening reviewing where you were most and least true to yourself today.
    Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
  8. One warm connection a day
    Make at least one genuine, attentive contact with another person each day.
    The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
  9. Separate the science from the overstatement
    Keep the reliable sleep practices; hold the scariest popular claims loosely.
    Why We Sleep, Translated Into Practice
  10. Write tomorrow’s six most important tasks the evening before
    Before the day ends, write exactly six tasks — no more — for the next day, ordered by their importance to you.
    The Ivy Lee Method, Made Practical

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