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- Whenever I let myself touch the hard feeling at all, I get pulled all the way under and flooded
- I keep telling my child to calm down while I’m clearly losing it myself, and I can feel how hollow that is
- I keep working on teaching my child to self-regulate, but the same things tip them over every time
- I can tell something’s off in my body but I can’t name it — am I wound up or shut down?
- When I’m wound up, "everything is urgent and someone’s to blame" feels like the plain truth, and when I’m low, "nothing matters" feels just as true
Practices that may help
- The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
The ladder of regulation, developed by Deb Dana from Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory, is a map of three autonomic states — ventral vagal (safe and social), sympathetic (mobilized), and dorsal vagal (shutdown) — arranged as rungs. Knowing which rung you’re on and which direction to move gives you a practical framework for state navigation rather than white-knuckling through dysregulation. - Pendulation: moving between states gently
Shift between a regulated and a less regulated state in small steps rather than forcing a leap.
The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States - Co-regulate by naming your own zone first
A parent who models zone awareness is a more effective co-regulator than one who only monitors the child.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Identify your current rung
Before trying to change your state, learn to read which of the three rungs you’re on right now.
The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States - Ladder narrative mapping: finding the story your state tells
Identify the specific beliefs and stories that your nervous system generates on each rung.
The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States - Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Manage your own emotional state before responding
A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Using social engagement to activate ventral vagal tone
Seek out or create interactions that deliver prosodic and facial safety cues to your nervous system.
The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States - Sympathetic-to-ventral moves: downshifting mobilization
Use specific physiological levers to move from an activated (fight/flight) state toward the ventral vagal zone.
The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
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- The Ladder Of Regulation Navigating Your Autonomic States As A Caregiver
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- The Ladder Of Regulation Navigating Your Autonomic States At Work
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- The Ladder Of Regulation Navigating Your Autonomic States During Conflict
The ladder of regulation, developed by Deb Dana from Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory, is a map of three autonomic states — ventral vagal (safe and social), sympathetic (mobilized), and dorsal vagal (shutdown) — arranged as rungs. Knowing which rung you’re on and which direction to move gives you a practical framework for state navigation rather than white-knuckling through dysregulation.
- The Ladder Of Regulation Navigating Your Autonomic States Under Stress
The ladder of regulation, developed by Deb Dana from Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory, is a map of three autonomic states — ventral vagal (safe and social), sympathetic (mobilized), and dorsal vagal (shutdown) — arranged as rungs. Knowing which rung you’re on and which direction to move gives you a practical framework for state navigation rather than white-knuckling through dysregulation.
- The Ladder Of Regulation Navigating Your Autonomic States With Friends
The ladder of regulation, developed by Deb Dana from Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory, is a map of three autonomic states — ventral vagal (safe and social), sympathetic (mobilized), and dorsal vagal (shutdown) — arranged as rungs. Knowing which rung you’re on and which direction to move gives you a practical framework for state navigation rather than white-knuckling through dysregulation.
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