Coaching practices for The Platinum Rule in a New Job

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• I quietly resent that people don’t communicate with me the way I need
• I keep walking into important conversations and just launching in the way that feels natural to me, and it lands wrong
• I like to get straight to business, and with some people that lands as cold and rushed
• Someone I usually get along with turns into a totally different, harsher version of themselves the moment a conversation gets tense, and it catches me off guard every time
• I’ve got a new hire starting and the lazy move is to just hand them whatever’s piled up in the backlog

Practices that may help

1. The Platinum Rule
   The Platinum Rule — "treat others the way they want to be treated" — is Tony Alessandra’s communication framework that inverts the Golden Rule’s assumption that your own preferences are a reliable guide to others’. It requires first understanding how another person prefers to communicate, receive feedback, and make decisions, then adapting your style to meet them there.
2. Disclose your own style preferences to others
   Tell people how you best receive information — so they can Platinum-Rule you back.
   The Platinum Rule
3. Identify the other person’s preferred style before speaking
   Read how someone prefers to receive information before deciding how to deliver it.
   The Platinum Rule
4. Match task-first vs. relationship-first opening
   Open the way your audience prefers — some need rapport first, others need the agenda first.
   The Platinum Rule
5. Recognize how style shifts under stress — including your own
   Everyone becomes a more extreme version of their style under pressure — prepare for that, not the baseline.
   The Platinum Rule
6. Use genius mapping in onboarding
   Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
   The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)
7. Adapt how you deliver feedback to the person’s style
   Deliver the same honest feedback in the form the other person can actually hear it.
   The Platinum Rule
8. Adapt your pace and directness to the other person
   Match your speed and how bluntly you deliver information to what the other person can receive.
   The Platinum Rule
9. Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows
   Treat approaching life changes as scheduled opportunities for habit installation — plan before the transition, not after.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
10. Give information or insight freely as a reciprocity signal
    Sharing real expertise before any transaction signals trustworthiness and activates the giving norm.
    The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical

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