Coaching practices for The Power of Habit as a Parent

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  • There are a few situations that go badly every single time
  • I keep meaning to start a good new habit
  • I keep trying to change this completely on my own, in secret, and the moment life gets stressful the old way snaps right back and I quietly decide I’m just someone who can’t change
  • My bad habits run on autopilot but the good one I’m trying to build never feels automatic
  • Every time I try to break this habit I just try to white-knuckle it away and grit my teeth through the craving

Practices that may help

  1. The Power of Habit, Made Practical
    Charles Duhigg frames every habit as a loop — a cue triggers a routine that delivers a reward — and says you change a habit by keeping the cue and reward but swapping the routine. The cue-routine-reward structure is grounded in real neuroscience of basal-ganglia habit learning; the "keystone habit" and "golden rule" framings are more journalistic synthesis than tested protocol.
  2. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
    Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  3. Engineer cues for habits you want
    Place obvious, consistent triggers in your environment to start a desired routine.
    The Power of Habit, Made Practical
  4. Use belief and community to make change stick
    A supportive group and a belief that change is possible help new habits survive stress.
    The Power of Habit, Made Practical
  5. Build a craving deliberately to cement a new habit
    Create an anticipatory craving for the reward of a new behavior before the reward arrives.
    The Habit Loop, Made Practical
  6. Keep the cue and reward, swap the routine
    Duhigg’s “golden rule”: change a habit by inserting a new routine between the same cue and reward.
    The Power of Habit, Made Practical
  7. Map the cue-routine-reward loop
    Break a habit into its three parts before you try to change anything.
    The Power of Habit, Made Practical
  8. Focus on keystone habits
    Change one high-leverage habit that cascades into other positive changes.
    The Power of Habit, Made Practical
  9. Pair a new behavior with an existing conditioned cue
    Attach the new behavior to a cue that already reliably fires, leveraging the existing conditioned association.
    Classical Conditioning and Habit Triggers
  10. Let the habit grow on its own
    Once the tiny habit is automatic, let it expand naturally instead of forcing more.
    Tiny Habits, Made Practical

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