Coaching practices for The Relaxation Response After a Loss

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• I laughed at something today and immediately felt like a traitor
• The moment I finish moving I’m up and onto the next thing
• When the pressure hits
• The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
• When I try to relax, my mind has nothing to hold onto so it just fills back up with the same threat-scanning worry

Practices that may help

1. The Relaxation Response, Made Practical
   Herbert Benson described the relaxation response as a learnable physiological state — the mirror image of the fight-or-flight stress response — that you can reliably elicit with two ingredients: a repeated focus (a word, sound, phrase, or breath) and a passive attitude toward intruding thoughts. The two-step method is simple, secular, and grounded in real physiological measurement, though it is a self-help skill for everyday stress, not a treatment for clinical disorders.
2. Deliberately take time off from grief
   Give yourself genuine permission to engage with ordinary life — this is restoration orientation, not avoidance.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
3. Savasana and the relaxation response
   Lying completely still at the end of a yoga practice triggers the relaxation response — the physiological counterpart to the stress response.
   Yoga for Stress: What the Research Shows
4. Condition a relaxation response to a portable cue
   Pair a chosen cue with deep relaxation until the cue itself can trigger calm — then use it under stress.
   Classical Conditioning and Habit Triggers
5. Havening to soften acute grief activation
   Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
6. Anchor attention on a repeated focus word
   Silently repeat a single neutral word, sound, or short phrase to give attention one undemanding thing to hold.
   The Relaxation Response, Made Practical
7. Deliberate orienting after a stressful event to complete the cycle
   After a difficult experience, do a slow orienting exercise to help your nervous system register that it is now over.
   The Orienting Response, Made Practical
8. Maintain the skill with regular abbreviated practice
   Keep the relaxation response accessible with five minutes of daily cue-word practice after the initial training.
   Applied Relaxation, Made Practical
9. After RAIN: resting in natural, open awareness
   After the four steps, rest in the open awareness that remains — not returning immediately to doing.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
10. Release-only relaxation: drop the tension phase
    Achieve the same result from release alone once you have learned what relaxation feels like.
    Applied Relaxation, Made Practical

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