Coaching practices for The Shared Meaning System as a Caregiver

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  • There’s a song, a place, a little phrase only we use
  • I’m quietly furious about how much I carry, but we never actually agreed on who does what
  • My body can’t do what it used to, so I keep grieving everything I can no longer go and accomplish
  • I assumed we wanted the same things, but lately our differences keep surfacing and I can’t tell which ones are real gaps in what we value and which are just us never having checked whether we’re actually aligned.
  • We pass each other the day’s logistics and a goodnight, but there’s no moment that’s just ours anymore

Practices that may help

  1. The Shared Meaning System
    The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one.
  2. Invest meaning in shared symbols and objects
    Identify the objects, places, and phrases that carry meaning for your relationship.
    The Shared Meaning System
  3. Negotiate roles and responsibilities explicitly
    Make implicit expectations explicit so resentment doesn’t fill the gap.
    The Shared Meaning System
  4. Receive meaning through beauty, love, and nature
    Meaning flows not only from what you do but from what you allow yourself to fully receive.
    Meaning-Centered Therapy, Made Practical
  5. Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
    Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
    The Shared Meaning System
  6. Create and protect rituals of connection
    Build small, consistent ceremonies that mark transitions and signal "we matter."
    The Shared Meaning System
  7. Maintain meaning sources proactively, not only after crisis
    Build a robust enough meaning system before the next stressor that any one event is less likely to shatter it entirely.
    Meaning-Making Coping, Made Practical
  8. Meaning-Making Coping, Made Practical
    Crystal Park’s meaning-making model holds that psychological distress after stressful events often reflects a gap between global meaning (the person’s general beliefs and goals) and situational meaning (what this specific event seems to say about the world). Coping involves either reappraising the event’s meaning or updating global beliefs to accommodate it. Research supports meaning-making as a predictor of better psychological adjustment following major stressors.
  9. Create something that expresses your unique presence
    Engagement in creative work — making, teaching, building — is a direct route to felt meaning.
    Meaning-Centered Therapy, Made Practical
  10. Treat meaning as a responsibility, not a feeling
    Meaning is not something that happens to you — it is something you are responsible for creating.
    Meaning-Centered Therapy, Made Practical

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