Coaching practices for The Shared Meaning System with My Team
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- I assumed we wanted the same things, but lately our differences keep surfacing and I can’t tell which ones are real gaps in what we value and which are just us never having checked whether we’re actually aligned.
- Our team has patterns that everyone outside us seems to see clearly while none of us inside it can
- There’s a song, a place, a little phrase only we use
- We pass each other the day’s logistics and a goodnight, but there’s no moment that’s just ours anymore
- I’m quietly furious about how much I carry, but we never actually agreed on who does what
Practices that may help
- The Shared Meaning System
The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one. - Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
The Shared Meaning System - Use the Johari Window in team settings
Apply the window at the team level to improve shared understanding and reduce inter-member blind spots.
The Johari Window - Invest meaning in shared symbols and objects
Identify the objects, places, and phrases that carry meaning for your relationship.
The Shared Meaning System - Create and protect rituals of connection
Build small, consistent ceremonies that mark transitions and signal "we matter."
The Shared Meaning System - Negotiate roles and responsibilities explicitly
Make implicit expectations explicit so resentment doesn’t fill the gap.
The Shared Meaning System - Run a structured team morphological session
The method is most powerful when multiple perspectives populate the dimensions and values.
Morphological Analysis, Made Practical - Norming: codify agreements in writing
What the team has figured out informally needs to become explicit so it survives personnel changes.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Design a centerpiece that holds the circle’s purpose
A shared object at the center of the circle externalizes the group’s collective intention.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Establish inclusion safety — belonging without conditions
Make every team member feel valued and accepted as a human being before expecting performance.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
Related concerns
- The Shared Meaning System At Work
The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one.
- The Shared Meaning System During A Big Change
The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one.
- The Shared Meaning System In A New Job
The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one.
- The Shared Meaning System On A Budget
The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one.
- Gottman Shared Meaning
The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one.
- Shared Meaning System Gottman
The shared meaning system is the top layer of John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House — the rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that give a couple’s life together a sense of shared purpose and identity. Gottman’s longitudinal research found that couples with a rich inner life of shared meaning were more resilient during conflict; the practices below show how to actively build one.
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