Coaching practices for The Stockdale Paradox as a Parent
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep telling myself it’ll all be fine, but really I mean fine by a certain date
- My team is looking to me to read how bad things really are, and I’m stuck
- I keep swinging between forced optimism that won’t look at how bad things actually are and a despair that says we won’t make it
- I keep looking away from the parts of this situation that actually scare me, telling myself the comfortable version, and then I make plans on top of a picture I know deep down isn’t the real one
- I’ve defined being a good parent (or partner, or manager) by whether the other person turns out happy and successful
Practices that may help
- The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not. - Separate faith in the outcome from assessment of current facts
Hold the belief that you will prevail as distinct from the facts of your current situation — never let optimism about the end contaminate your view of the present.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Confront the brutal facts while maintaining faith in the outcome
Hold two things at once: unflinching honesty about current reality and unwavering belief in ultimate success.
Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders - Confront the brutal facts — regularly and specifically
Name the most uncomfortable true things about your current situation before acting, planning, or optimizing.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
The Stoic Reserve Clause - Audit work hours against your stated priorities
Compare how you actually spend your time this week against what you say matters most.
The Regret of the Dying - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Use the bullseye to resolve competing values
When two values pull in different directions, the bullseye shows you which domain is most neglected and most in need of attention.
Values Bullseye, Made Practical
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- The Stockdale Paradox As A Caregiver
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
- The Stockdale Paradox For My Teenager
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
- Jim Collins Stockdale Paradox
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
- Stockdale Paradox
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
- The Stockdale Paradox After A Loss
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
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