Coaching practices for The Stockdale Paradox During Conflict
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep telling myself it’ll all be fine, but really I mean fine by a certain date
- My team is looking to me to read how bad things really are, and I’m stuck
- I keep swinging between forced optimism that won’t look at how bad things actually are and a despair that says we won’t make it
- I keep looking away from the parts of this situation that actually scare me, telling myself the comfortable version, and then I make plans on top of a picture I know deep down isn’t the real one
- Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes
Practices that may help
- The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not. - Separate faith in the outcome from assessment of current facts
Hold the belief that you will prevail as distinct from the facts of your current situation — never let optimism about the end contaminate your view of the present.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Confront the brutal facts while maintaining faith in the outcome
Hold two things at once: unflinching honesty about current reality and unwavering belief in ultimate success.
Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders - Confront the brutal facts — regularly and specifically
Name the most uncomfortable true things about your current situation before acting, planning, or optimizing.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Separate the person from the problem
Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships - Responding to conflict without escalation
In a conflict, address the problem without attacking the person.
Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice - Use fierce self-compassion to stay in hard conversations
Stay present in conflict by meeting your own distress with compassion, so you don't flee or attack.
Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Essentialism During Conflict
In any conflict, identify the values or goals you and the other person genuinely share before cataloguing differences.
Map shared values before mapping the disagreement
- How To Stay Grounded In Conflict
Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
Transform the relationship, not just the issue
- Jim Collins Stockdale Paradox
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
- Stockdale Paradox
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
- The One Thing During Conflict
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
- The Stockdale Paradox After A Loss
The Stockdale Paradox — named by Jim Collins after Admiral James Stockdale, who survived seven years as a POW in Vietnam — describes the disciplined combination of two seemingly opposed stances: an unwavering belief that you will ultimately prevail, held simultaneously with a clear-eyed confrontation with the most brutal facts of your current reality. Collins found this combination distinguished great companies that recovered from crisis from those that did not.
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