Coaching practices for The Stoic Discipline of Action as a Parent
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve defined being a good parent (or partner, or manager) by whether the other person turns out happy and successful
- When I throw myself fully into something and it doesn’t pan out, I’m crushed
- I’m never really doing the thing I’m doing
- I read all the Stoic ideas and nod along, but the moment real life pushes on me I crumble exactly the same as before
- I want to throw myself completely into this and also not be destroyed if it doesn’t land, and right now those feel impossible to hold at once
Practices that may help
- The Stoic Discipline of Action
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of action" as the second of three Stoic spiritual exercises: acting in service of the community and common good, while holding the outcome loosely with a "reserve clause." It trains deliberate, values-aligned action that is not derailed by outcome-dependency — a practical answer to the problem of acting well in an uncertain world. - Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
The Stoic Reserve Clause - The discipline of action
Act for the common good, with a "reserve clause": I intend this, fate permitting.
The Inner Citadel - Give full attention to the present action
Do what you are doing completely — not while managing the past or planning the future.
The Stoic Discipline of Action - Daily training of the ruling faculty
Treat every day’s difficulties as training material for strengthening the ruling faculty.
The Inner Citadel - Add the reserve clause to every significant action
Act fully — "I will do X, fate permitting" — holding the intention tightly and the outcome loosely.
The Stoic Discipline of Action - Act as a rational social animal — remember your dual nature
Before acting, check both: is this rational (consistent with reason and reality)? And is it social (does it serve others)?
The Stoic Discipline of Action - Stoicism, as a Set of Practices
Stoicism is a practical philosophy, not just a worldview: a handful of repeatable exercises — separating what you control from what you don’t, rehearsing adversity in advance, taking the wider view, and reviewing your day — train you to keep your judgment steady when circumstances are not. Several of these exercises are the direct historical ancestors of modern cognitive behavioral therapy, which is the strongest evidence we have for them. - Treat each obstacle as an opportunity for the discipline of action
When something blocks your intended action, ask what virtuous response the obstacle itself calls for.
The Stoic Discipline of Action - Orient action toward the common good
Before acting, ask: does this serve only me, or does it contribute to something beyond myself?
The Stoic Discipline of Action
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- The Stoic Discipline Of Action As A Caregiver
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of action" as the second of three Stoic spiritual exercises: acting in service of the community and common good, while holding the outcome loosely with a "reserve clause." It trains deliberate, values-aligned action that is not derailed by outcome-dependency — a practical answer to the problem of acting well in an uncertain world.
- The Stoic Discipline Of Action At Work
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of action" as the second of three Stoic spiritual exercises: acting in service of the community and common good, while holding the outcome loosely with a "reserve clause." It trains deliberate, values-aligned action that is not derailed by outcome-dependency — a practical answer to the problem of acting well in an uncertain world.
- The Stoic Discipline Of Action With Friends
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of action" as the second of three Stoic spiritual exercises: acting in service of the community and common good, while holding the outcome loosely with a "reserve clause." It trains deliberate, values-aligned action that is not derailed by outcome-dependency — a practical answer to the problem of acting well in an uncertain world.
- The Stoic Discipline Of Action With My Partner
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of action" as the second of three Stoic spiritual exercises: acting in service of the community and common good, while holding the outcome loosely with a "reserve clause." It trains deliberate, values-aligned action that is not derailed by outcome-dependency — a practical answer to the problem of acting well in an uncertain world.
- Perspective To Action Stoicism
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of action" as the second of three Stoic spiritual exercises: acting in service of the community and common good, while holding the outcome loosely with a "reserve clause." It trains deliberate, values-aligned action that is not derailed by outcome-dependency — a practical answer to the problem of acting well in an uncertain world.
- Stoic Discipline Of Action
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of action" as the second of three Stoic spiritual exercises: acting in service of the community and common good, while holding the outcome loosely with a "reserve clause." It trains deliberate, values-aligned action that is not derailed by outcome-dependency — a practical answer to the problem of acting well in an uncertain world.
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