Coaching practices for The Two Process Model of Sleep After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
- I’ve thrown everything at my sleep
- After a rough night I go to bed early, nap in the afternoon, sleep in on the weekend to make up for it
- I laughed at something today and immediately felt like a traitor
Practices that may help
- The Two-Process Model of Sleep
Alexander Borbély’s two-process model describes sleep as the interaction of two independent systems: Process S (homeostatic sleep pressure, which builds throughout waking hours like a battery draining) and Process C (the circadian clock, which gates sleep propensity in a 24-hour rhythm). Good sleep requires both processes to align — sleep pressure high and the clock in its nighttime phase simultaneously. The model is well established in sleep science. - The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
The Dual Process Model (DPM), developed by Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut, describes healthy grief as oscillation between two orientations: loss-oriented (engaging with the pain of losing the person) and restoration-oriented (attending to the practical and identity challenges of life without them). The model is well-regarded in grief research and provides a framework for understanding why taking breaks from grief is healthy, not avoidant. - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Use the two-process model to diagnose your specific sleep problem
Identify whether your sleep issue is a Process S problem, a Process C problem, or both — because the fixes are different.
The Two-Process Model of Sleep - Build homeostatic sleep pressure by staying awake
Resist napping late or sleeping in when you want to fix your sleep — consistent waking builds the pressure that makes sleep arrive.
The Two-Process Model of Sleep - Deliberately take time off from grief
Give yourself genuine permission to engage with ordinary life — this is restoration orientation, not avoidance.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Identify and address secondary stressors
Name the practical, identity, and relational challenges the loss has created — and work on them as restoration.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Use vigorous daytime activity to build a clean Process S curve
Physical and mental activity during the day steepen the sleep pressure curve, making evening sleepiness arrive on time.
The Two-Process Model of Sleep - Treat sleep as your primary resilience deposit
Consistent, adequate sleep is the single highest-yield resilience deposit — it restores every system that adversity will draw on.
The Resilience Bank Account, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Dual Process Model Restoration
The Dual Process Model (DPM), developed by Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut, describes healthy grief as oscillation between two orientations: loss-oriented (engaging with the pain of losing the person) and restoration-oriented (attending to the practical and identity challenges of life without them). The model is well-regarded in grief research and provides a framework for understanding why taking breaks from grief is healthy, not avoidant.
- Active Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Dennis Klass Grief Theory
Continuing bonds theory, developed by Dennis Klass and colleagues, holds that maintaining an ongoing inner relationship with the deceased — through memory, ritual, and internalised connection — is a normal and often adaptive part of grief, not a sign of pathology. Observational research supports this for many types of connection, though some forms (active searching, idealisation) are associated with poorer outcomes.
- Dpm Grieving Styles
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- Dual Process Model Grief
The Dual Process Model (DPM), developed by Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut, describes healthy grief as oscillation between two orientations: loss-oriented (engaging with the pain of losing the person) and restoration-oriented (attending to the practical and identity challenges of life without them). The model is well-regarded in grief research and provides a framework for understanding why taking breaks from grief is healthy, not avoidant.
- Grief Work Dpm
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
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