Coaching practices for Time Affluence During Conflict
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- I feel so stretched that I’ve started guarding every single minute and saying no to everyone
- I came in hard because the situation called for it, but partway through the urgent part got settled and the other person clearly just needed to feel heard
- I finally clear an evening and then watch it dissolve into scrolling and half-watched TV
- Right when life is slammed and we both need each other most, that’s exactly when we have the least left to give
- My days blur past and I can barely remember them
Practices that may help
- Time Affluence, Made Practical
Time affluence is the felt sense of having enough time, the opposite of "time famine" — the chronic feeling of being rushed. Research suggests that valuing time over money, and spending money to buy back time, predict greater happiness, though much of the evidence is correlational and the effects, while real, are modest. - Time Affluence Practices (Cassie Holmes)
Cassie Holmes’s research on time and happiness identifies several evidence-backed habits that increase felt time abundance: protecting a moderate amount of discretionary time, spending time on activities that match your strengths, investing in experiences over things, and being present in time you already have. Effects are real but modest; the biggest single factor is how you allocate and attend to the time you have, not how much of it there is. - Time Smart: Buying Back Your Time Affluence
Ashley Whillans’s research shows that "time affluence" — the subjective sense of having enough time — predicts well-being better than income beyond a moderate level, and that concrete practices like outsourcing disliked tasks and protecting time for meaningful activities measurably raise it. The core studies are correlational with some experimental support for specific interventions. - Spend time on others to feel time-rich
Giving time away can paradoxically make you feel you have more of it.
Time Affluence, Made Practical - Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Invest freed time in activities with documented well-being returns
Buying back time only raises happiness if the freed time goes to high-return activities.
Time Smart: Buying Back Your Time Affluence - Prioritize bid awareness during high-stress periods
Under stress, bid frequency rises and attention drops -- the worst combination.
Bids for Connection: The Small Moments That Make or Break Relationships - Savor time to make it feel more abundant
Be fully present in activities so time feels fuller, not just faster.
Time Affluence, Made Practical - Actively restore the ratio after a major rupture
After a bad fight, the ratio is temporarily negative -- restoration requires intentional positive investment.
The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle - Identify your default conflict mode
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
Related concerns
- Cassie Holmes Time Affluence
Cassie Holmes’s research on time and happiness identifies several evidence-backed habits that increase felt time abundance: protecting a moderate amount of discretionary time, spending time on activities that match your strengths, investing in experiences over things, and being present in time you already have. Effects are real but modest; the biggest single factor is how you allocate and attend to the time you have, not how much of it there is.
- Time Affluence
Time affluence is the felt sense of having enough time, the opposite of "time famine" — the chronic feeling of being rushed. Research suggests that valuing time over money, and spending money to buy back time, predict greater happiness, though much of the evidence is correlational and the effects, while real, are modest.
- Time Affluence As A Parent
Time affluence is the felt sense of having enough time, the opposite of "time famine" — the chronic feeling of being rushed. Research suggests that valuing time over money, and spending money to buy back time, predict greater happiness, though much of the evidence is correlational and the effects, while real, are modest.
- Time Affluence With Friends
Time affluence is the felt sense of having enough time, the opposite of "time famine" — the chronic feeling of being rushed. Research suggests that valuing time over money, and spending money to buy back time, predict greater happiness, though much of the evidence is correlational and the effects, while real, are modest.
- Time Affluence With My Team
Time affluence is the felt sense of having enough time, the opposite of "time famine" — the chronic feeling of being rushed. Research suggests that valuing time over money, and spending money to buy back time, predict greater happiness, though much of the evidence is correlational and the effects, while real, are modest.
- Time Smart Buying Back Your Time Affluence With My Partner
Ashley Whillans’s research shows that "time affluence" — the subjective sense of having enough time — predicts well-being better than income beyond a moderate level, and that concrete practices like outsourcing disliked tasks and protecting time for meaningful activities measurably raise it. The core studies are correlational with some experimental support for specific interventions.
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