Coaching practices for Values Based Decision Making

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m frozen on a decision where honoring one thing I care about means shortchanging another
• Under all this pressure to please people and react, I’m about to make a call that I already sense doesn’t square with who I actually want to be
• I made a call that turned out badly and now I feel like an idiot for it
• I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
• I’m weighing a choice and I notice I’m only asking what’s best for me, then quietly building a clever story for why that’s also fine for everyone

Practices that may help

1. Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
   Values-based spending is the practice of deliberately allocating money toward what you have identified as genuinely important to you — and cutting spending that does not reflect those priorities. It is not minimalism or frugality; it is a decision framework that uses your stated values as the filter for every financial choice. The evidence base is primarily from financial psychology and hedonic wellbeing research, not clinical trials.
2. Resolving a decision with two competing values
   When two values both apply, use your ranked priority to resolve the tension rather than freeze.
   Values Card Sort
3. Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
   Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
   The 10-10-10 Rule
4. Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
   Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.
5. Judge decisions by the process, not the result
   A good decision that produces a bad outcome is still a good decision.
   Expected Value Thinking: Deciding Under Uncertainty
6. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
7. Expected Value Thinking: Deciding Under Uncertainty
   Expected value thinking multiplies each possible outcome by its probability and sums the results, giving a single number that represents the average payoff of a decision. It is the mathematical foundation of rational decision-making under uncertainty — well grounded in decision theory — but it has real limits: probabilities are often uncertain, outcomes are not always quantifiable, and raw expected value ignores risk aversion that can be legitimate.
8. Test your actions against the common good
   Ask whether what you’re about to do serves or damages the common good — not just your interests.
   Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection
9. Evaluate solutions against costs, benefits, and fit
   Rate each solution on likelihood of success, personal costs, and fit with your values.
   Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
10. Name the values the regret is about
    Regret points at a violated value — make the value explicit.
    The Regret-Minimization Framework

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