Coaching practices for Values Mapping

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My maps come out as a wall of same-colored text that all blurs together when I look back at it
• I notice I believe things mostly based on who said them
• I can rattle off all the separate facts but I have no feel for how any of them fit together
• A part of me that used to be brutally harsh has genuinely softened lately, but I notice I’m still relating to it like the old enemy it used to be
• I assumed we wanted the same things, but lately our differences keep surfacing and I can’t tell which ones are real gaps in what we value and which are just us never having checked whether we’re actually aligned.

Practices that may help

1. Argument Mapping
   Argument mapping is the practice of drawing the logical structure of an argument as a diagram — claims, supporting reasons, objections, and rebuttals made spatially explicit. Developed into a pedagogical system by Tim van Gelder, it is one of the few critical-thinking interventions with controlled-study support: students who learned argument mapping showed significantly larger gains in reasoning ability than those in conventional classes.
2. Use colors and images to encode categories and relationships
   Assign distinct colors to different first-level branches and use simple images at key nodes to activate visual memory.
   Mind Mapping: Visual Thinking for Learning and Creativity
3. IFS Parts Mapping, Made Practical
   Parts mapping is an Internal Family Systems (Richard Schwartz) practice of systematically identifying and visually or narratively charting the distinct inner parts — critics, worriers, peacekeepers, wounded exiles — and their relationships to each other. It is a diagnostic and orientation tool: it shows you the terrain of your inner system before you try to work with any single part. Evidence sits within the broader IFS and parts-work literature, which is growing but not yet on par with CBT or DBT.
4. Evaluate the argument structure, not the source
   Map the logic and evaluate it independently of who made the argument.
   Argument Mapping
5. Map relationships, not just items
   Use concept maps to encode how ideas connect, giving structure a spatial form.
   Dual Coding: Learn With Words and Pictures Together
6. Update the map as parts shift
   Revisit and revise the map after significant inner work — the system changes, and the map should too.
   IFS Parts Mapping, Made Practical
7. Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
   A love map -- John Gottman's term -- is your detailed internal knowledge of your partner's inner world: their hopes, worries, stresses, friends, and daily life. Couples who maintain rich, updated love maps navigate conflict and life transitions with far less friction; the research basis is Gottman's observational couples studies, which are correlational.
8. Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
   Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
   The Shared Meaning System
9. Use hierarchy depth to signal concept importance
   Place the most important concepts on first-level branches and add specificity and detail at deeper branch levels.
   Mind Mapping: Visual Thinking for Learning and Creativity
10. Use single keywords on branches, not sentences
    Each branch carries one keyword or image — not a full sentence — to maximize associative branching potential.
    Mind Mapping: Visual Thinking for Learning and Creativity

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