Coaching practices for What to Do with a Friend Who Cheats in Games

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• I’ve tried the buddy thing but the person I picked just says “no worries, next time” whenever I flake
• If a friend told me they’d blown off this exact thing I’d be gentle and kind to them in a heartbeat, yet to myself I’m brutal
• If a friend brought me this exact dilemma I’d know in two seconds what they should do, but stuck inside my own version I just go in circles
• I’d never speak to anyone else the way I speak to myself
• I only ever do this for the points and rewards now, and I’ve noticed the day they’d stop is the day I’d quit

Practices that may help

1. Choose a partner who will actually hold the line
   Pick someone invested enough to ask hard questions, not a friend who will let it slide.
   Accountability Partners
2. Extend the compassion you would give a friend to yourself
   Ask what you would say to a capable friend who had delayed on the same task — then say that.
   Self-Forgiveness and Procrastination
3. Give yourself advice as if advising a close friend
   Describe your problem as if a close friend brought it to you — then write the advice you would give them.
   Self-Distancing Journaling
4. Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk
   Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend in the same situation.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
5. Fade the mechanics toward intrinsic motivation
   Use game mechanics to start, then deliberately wean off them as the behavior becomes its own reward.
   Gamification of Habits
6. Gamification of Habits
   Gamification adds points, levels, and quests to make a behavior more immediately rewarding and engaging, which can boost a habit in the short term. The serious caveat is the overjustification effect: when external rewards take over a behavior you already valued, they can crowd out the intrinsic motivation and leave you less interested once the points stop.
7. Advise yourself as you would a friend
   Ask what you would tell a friend in exactly your situation — then take your own advice.
   Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems
8. Bundle the should with social connection
   Add a social element to an avoided behavior to make it rewarding in the moment through connection.
   Temptation Bundling, Made Practical
9. Plan the recovery before the chain breaks
   Decide in advance that a broken chain means start the next day, not abandon the habit.
   Don't Break the Chain: The Streak Method
10. Red-team your plan with a formal adversarial review
    Assign someone the explicit role of finding every way your plan could be wrong or fail.
    Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See

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