Coaching practices for My Move is Always to Clamp Down and Tell Everyone I'm Fine and Just Push Through but the Feeling Doesn't Actually Leave it Sits There Humming Under the Surface All Day and Holding the Lid on it is Wearing Me Out

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• My move is always to clamp down and tell everyone I’m fine and just push through
• My whole strategy is to clamp it down and look composed, jaw tight, breath shallow, smiling through it
• I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
• When something hurts I feel my whole body clamp down against it, like if I tense hard enough it won’t get in
• There’s so much piled on me at once that I can’t even find myself underneath it all

Practices that may help

1. Label instead of suppress
   Choose describing the feeling over clamping it down or distracting from it.
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
2. Recognize the cost of suppression
   Notice when you’re pushing emotions down — and understand why this strategy is more expensive than it looks.
   Cognitive Reappraisal vs. Suppression, Made Practical
3. Mindful awareness of suffering
   Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
4. Relax and release stuck energy
   When emotion grips, consciously relax and let the energy move through instead of clamping down.
   The Untethered Soul, In Practice
5. Clear a space
   Set down each burden one by one to find the calm place underneath them.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
6. The dichotomy of control
   Sort every situation into what is up to you (judgments, choices, effort) and what is not (outcomes, others, the past).
   Stoicism, as a Set of Practices
7. RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
   Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
8. Name the emotion in plain words
   Say what you feel as a simple statement: "I am feeling anxious right now."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
9. Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
   When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
   Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
10. Do the opposite action all the way
    Commit to the opposite fully — posture, voice, attention — not half-heartedly.
    Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge

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