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- On paper my life looks successful
- On paper my life looks fine and I can’t point to anything that’s wrong, but I have this nagging sense it isn’t actually going well
- On paper my life has all the right pieces
- Something about my life feels off and I genuinely can’t name what
- My life feels like a flat list of events with no shape, and I want to find the two or three moments that genuinely redirected everything
Practices that may help
- Audit your life against PERMA
Check well-being across all five pillars — emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, accomplishment.
Positive Psychology, Made Practical - Periodic eudaimonia audit: are you actually flourishing?
Periodically evaluate your life against the conditions Aristotle thought were necessary for genuine flourishing — not just your feelings about it.
Aristotelian Eudaimonia: Flourishing Through Virtue - Ikigai quarterly review
Every three months, map the intersection of what you love, what you are good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for.
Purpose Anchors: Keeping Meaning Accessible Day to Day - Run a PERMA audit of your current well-being
Rate each of the five PERMA pillars to find which is currently limiting your overall flourishing.
Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical - Map your turning points and what they changed
Identify the two to four moments that most fundamentally redirected the arc of your life.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy - Monitor intrinsic interest over time
Overjustification is a slow erosion — check whether you still find the work interesting, not just whether you’re doing it.
The Overjustification Effect: When Rewards Kill Motivation - Three good things (what went well)
Each night, write down three things that went well and why they went well.
Positive Psychology, Made Practical - Map your personal sources of meaning
Identify the specific activities, relationships, and beliefs that make life feel worth living.
Meaning-Centered Therapy, Made Practical - Occasionally count burdens to sharpen contrast
Once a month, briefly list your burdens — then return to your blessings and notice the contrast.
Counting Blessings: The Psychology of Grateful Reflection - Identify the drag domain — the one pulling everything else down
One chronically low domain often functions as a ceiling on satisfaction in all the others.
The Wheel of Life, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Perma Model Perma Audit
Rate each of the five PERMA pillars to find which is currently limiting your overall flourishing.
Run a PERMA audit of your current well-being
- When Positive Psychology Perma Audit
Check well-being across all five pillars — emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, accomplishment.
Audit your life against PERMA
- When Purpose Anchors Ikigai Quarterly Review
Every three months, map the intersection of what you love, what you are good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for.
Ikigai quarterly review
- When Virtue Ethics Eudaimonia Check
Regularly ask: am I flourishing as a human being — using my capacities well — or just feeling okay?
Measure flourishing, not just happiness
- Five Dysfunctions Pyramid
Patrick Lencioni’s model describes five compounding failures that undermine teams: absence of trust, fear of conflict, lack of commitment, avoidance of accountability, and inattention to results — each built on the one below. It is a practitioner framework presented as a business fable, not an empirically tested model, but its five dimensions align well with decades of team effectiveness research, making it a useful diagnostic even without controlled-trial support.
- Five Elements Of Well Being
Martin Seligman’s PERMA model identifies five pillars of well-being: Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Unlike happiness models that treat well-being as a single variable, PERMA argues these five elements are each intrinsically valued and each independently improvable. Several PERMA-targeted interventions have randomized-trial support; others are mechanistically grounded with less direct evidence.
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