Coaching practices for Right Before the Big Moment I'm Wired and Shaking and I Keep Telling Myself to Calm Down and Relax Which Never Works and Just Makes Me More Frantic That I Can't Fighting the Nerves is Its Own Losing Battle

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• Right before the big moment I’m wired and shaking and I keep telling myself to calm down and relax, which never works and just makes me more frantic that I can’t
• Right before I go on, my heart is pounding and my hands are shaking and I read all of it as a sign I’m about to fall apart
• Right before anything that matters my heart pounds and my hands shake, and I read all of it as proof I’m not ready and about to fall apart
• When the nerves hit, my warm-up stretches on and on as I fidget and re-do things, and that very dragging-out is the tell that I’m rattled
• I’m about to walk in and my heart is pounding, hands cold, mind racing

Practices that may help

1. Reappraise anxiety as excitement before high-stakes performance
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is the same, the performance effect is not.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
2. Reappraise physiological arousal as activation, not anxiety
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is identical; the label changes performance.
   The Clutch State: Performing Under Pressure
3. Recalibrate arousal as readiness, not threat
   Reinterpret pre-performance anxiety as energy and readiness rather than evidence of inadequacy.
   Mastery Experiences
4. Standardize the duration of your routine
   Fix the length of your pre-performance sequence so timing does not become a pressure variable.
   Pre-Performance Routines, Made Practical
5. Havening to clear pre-performance anxiety
   Run a short havening sequence before a high-stakes event to lower physiological anxiety.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
6. Switch to process-only focus when competition pressure peaks
   When the outcome feels most at stake, deliberately redirect attention to the one next process action.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
7. Reframe stress as a challenge
   Read your racing heart as your body gearing up, not as evidence something is wrong.
   Cognitive Reframing, Made Practical
8. Set your posture before high-stakes moments
   Take a private moment to settle into a confident posture before a presentation or hard talk.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
9. Use mastery imagery to build confidence before high-stakes performances
   Replay previous best performances in imagery before high-pressure situations.
   Mental Rehearsal and Imagery, Made Practical
10. De-activation Strategies for Over-Arousal
    Use targeted techniques to reduce arousal when anxiety or over-activation is undermining performance.
    The Yerkes-Dodson Law: Finding Your Optimal Performance Zone

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