Coaching practices for Ever Since What Happened I Move Through Life with These Flat Absolute Rules Running Underneath Everything No One Can Be Trusted Nowhere is Safe but They're So Much a Part of How I See Things That I Can't Even Pull Them Out to Look at Them

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• Ever since what happened I move through life with these flat, absolute rules running underneath everything
• Since they died, the whole ground I stood on is gone
• I’m about to bet a big plan on the way things have always worked, and a quiet voice is asking whether the ground rules here could just shift out from under me
• I keep telling myself "it has to be this way" and "that’s just not an option," and I’ve never once stopped to write down those rules and ask whether the problem actually imposed them or whether I just assumed them.
• There’s an area of my life

Practices that may help

1. Identify your stuck points
   Name the specific beliefs about safety, trust, control, esteem, or intimacy that the trauma has frozen.
   Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
2. Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
   Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
3. Check whether the rules of your domain are actually stable
   Before applying any probability model, ask whether the rules governing outcomes could change mid-game.
   The Ludic Fallacy: When You Mistake Real Life for a Game
4. Make your constraints explicit before solving
   Write out every assumption and rule you are treating as fixed — most problem-solvers carry invisible constraints they never surface.
   Constraint Relaxation: Escaping the Walls You Built Yourself
5. The practice of living consciously
   Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
6. Set charitable interpretation as your cognitive default
   Deliberately adopt the assumption that people are probably doing their best given their constraints.
   Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain
7. Define exceptions in advance, in writing
   A bright line with a pre-written exception stays bright; an improvised exception breaks it.
   Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
8. Know when a bright line backfires
   Rigid all-or-nothing rules can fuel disordered patterns — use them with judgment.
   Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
9. Make your beliefs precise enough to be wrong
   Vague claims cannot be falsified — sharpen your belief until it can be.
   Falsification Thinking
10. Identify and challenge the paradigm the system rests on
    Locate the shared belief about how things work that makes the current system seem natural — and question it.
    Leverage Points

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